I think I’ll always be a work in progress. I still want to slow down more and gain greater focus and balance in my life.
“What are your goals for the next six months, one year, five years?” asked my coach Dr. F as I told her about my current challenges during my life after 50. “You should write down goals for all areas of your life – personal, health & wellness, work, financial. Having goals will help you achieve greater balance. You’ll know when to say ‘no’ to certain things and ‘yes’ to others.”
I thought about the goals I’ve achieved during the past six years since losing my spouse and how I’ve adapted to all the changes. I never wrote down my goals, I was too busy executing them. It was a high-stress period, but I did accomplish a great deal in a short amount of time.
♦ I bought my “condo on the corner” at the shore. I do love the beach.
♦ I met a new man online and now I have a great boyfriend L.
♦ I sold my house and moved into a townhouse.
♦ I helped launch my two adult children into their adult lives.
♦ I launched a new career as a blogger and retired from my 30 year corporate career.
Setting SMART Goals
As I head toward 60, perhaps it’s a good time to revisit my goals for the second half of my life. I should write down my goals like Dr. F says.
“Create SMART goals,” said Dr. F. “SMART goals are specific, measurable, reasonable, and have a timeframe. SMART goals help you move forward and are about what you want rather than what you don’t want.”
“Allow yourself guilt-free play each day,” said Dr. F. What’s that you say? Have fun each day? I can do that. Yes, I can. Yes, I can.
I liked what Dr. F suggested. It sounded positive and practical. Now I just have to do it. Can I do it? Can I? Can I? Ooh, ooh, ooh, I’m going to give it a shot. Here goes. Here are some of my SMART goals. One for each area of my life for the next year. I don’t want to go too far into the future.
♦ Personal: I want to travel to a new place. I can do this. Yes I can. I am going to San Jose, CA in July to the BlogHer conference. I’m going a day early to explore the city since I’ve never visited San Jose. Wow-o-wow, this goal is coming up next month! Can’t wait to see all my midlife blogger friends at BlogHer.
♦ Health & Wellness: I want to practice yoga each weekday. I love yoga. It’s a great way to de-stress and focus my mind, body and spirit. I’ve studied mindfulness too, so on days when I cannot get to my yoga class I can meditate at home to calm my mind.
♦ Work:I am going to write one chapter of my book each month. Is this achievable and realistic in addition to writing my blog? I’m going to keep close track of this goal and check on my progress in three months. That’s good. I included a timeframe.
♦ Financial:I will live on a monthly budget that I have established for my expenses during my life after 50. This is a BIG goal. I’ll have to watch my spending. If I go over one month, I’ll have to be more careful the next. It’s easy to measure because the numbers in my checkbook will be my guide.
Ooh, ooh, ooh, I forgot to add my “guilt-free play for each day.” Ah yes, I am going to spend an hour each day reading The New York Times,a chick-lit novel, a magazine or anything I want to read. I’m going to have fun reading my fashion magazines.
I like this goal-setting idea. What about you? Do you have goals for your life after 50?
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Oooh, guilt free play? I need some of that! I’m still work full time, but I would love to add some travel in my future.
Debbie, even though you work full-time you can still enjoy some guilt-free play during each day. Don’t wait!
Hi Judi! You are so right that we are all works in progress as we go along but it sounds like you are doing a great job of reinventing yourself. And because I know a little bit about SMART goals I would say you are also off to a great start on those too. Good luck and enjoy the ride! ~Kathy
Thanks for your support Kathy. You are the master of SMART Living.
Great ideas. Don’t forget the importance of continuing the lifelong journey towards reflecting on life’s meaning and praying. Love.
Wise suggestions. Thanks!
I feel as though I have slept through life, living moment to moment, day to day without goals or dreams. I woke up but I have no clue what a woman of 68 has to dream of, or what kind of goals to set.
Gayle, I hope you find your passions for the second half of your life. I encourage you to check out some books about the subject or seek advice from a life coach. My therapist was so helpful to me as I navigated this stage of my life.
First time in your blog and getting inspired, raw energy rushing into my body! Is it an adrenal rush, I am not sure but feeling good and motivated after reading it. Can’t wait to set my goals for all the areas of my life.
I also practice mindful meditation methods, my favorite master is Eckhart Tolle. His methods are really amazing and very effective. It brought a lot of positive changes in my life.
Welcome Donna. So glad my words have inspired you.