It’s been a year since I said goodbye to my full-time job. I am reminded of that major moment in my life after seeing recent coverage of the 2013 Boston Marathon bombing that changed the lives of so many people. I was in Boston twice during April 2013 (including the day of the tragic bombing) to execute my final meetings for the company that had literally encompassed my every waking and sometimes sleeping hours for 30 years.
It took courage to close the book on my longest professional relationship, when only a month earlier I also said goodbye to my mom, a woman with whom I had the closest personal relationship. My mom died in March 2013 at the age of 91.
The past 12 months have been a year of great change. I cherish my friends and family who supported me and continue to support me through my transition. I am grateful for the success I attained during my long corporate career. Now, It’s time to reap the benefits of my stamina and many years of hard work. It’s time to pursue smaller dreams and goals during my life after 50.
A big company name no longer defines me. Today, I’m on my own – living joyfully in the present and ready to fully expand and explore the future. Most of all, I like the new me who is emerging.
I can see and feel a difference.
Instead of rising at 6:00 a.m., most mornings my alarm goes off 90 minutes later. Some days I jump out of bed. Other days I linger and think about all the activities I have planned for the day. I head to my recumbent bicycle for my 30 minute ride and read my magazines and emails (on my iPhone) as I pedal away.
I can see and feel a difference.
After showering or bathing, on goes my yoga attire. No more dresses or suits. I’ve left the dry cleaners behind too. Those dollars go elsewhere or into the piggy bank for savings. No makeup required for exercise – just moisturizer and sunscreen.
I can see and feel a difference.
While I do spend many an afternoon and evening researching and writing in my home office, no one else is controlling my schedule except me. Multiple meetings are gone from my calendar. Most mornings or middays are set aside for practicing yoga. It’s amazing what I learn about myself (and others) when I take time to stop, breathe, and be.
I can see and feel a difference.
A few evenings each week I cook dinner from scratch, following recipes I find online, in The New York Times magazine, or from the Jerusalem cookbook. I take pride in hunting down rare ingredients such as cardamom pods or sumac spice – which I now know are available at Whole Foods. I love to cook and enjoy good food.
I can see and feel a difference.
I’m making more time on my calendar to see old friends and I’m eagerly meeting new ones with whom I share common interests like yoga, writing and blogging. Sometimes I spend nights “binge” watching popular television shows with my boyfriend L. When one series ends another begins – House of Cards, The Americans, Call the MidWife, Shameless, Downton Abbey and GIRLS are our current favorites.
I can see and feel a difference.
While I’ve made some big changes this year, I’m still finding my way. Ask my friends and they’ll tell you that “some days the Coyote in me is trying to catch my inner Road Runner.” Whenever that happens, I remind myself of the sign that stands at the entrance to to the small New Jersey island where my condo on the corner sits. It says, “Slow down, what’s your hurry, you’re already here.”
It’s amazing how the universe opens up when I slow down and what wonderful opportunities come my way. For example, just when I thought I was needing some assistance to help me sort out “what’s next,” I received an email from my friends at AARP.
“We’d like you to help us promote Life Reimagined, something completely new and different for AARP – a shift in direction that goes beyond a temporary campaign. It puts the focus on younger Americans who see new possibilities, rather than traditional retirement, in the next phase of life.”
“Who, what, where, when? Tell me all the details. Sounds like the direction I’m headed,” I said. “Sign me up.”
So here I am. Starting year two of my next chapter. As I read through the book, Life Reimagined, by Richard J. Leider, author of Repacking Your Bags, and Alan M. Webber, cofounder of Fast Company, I’m psyched about using the guide to help me discover new possibilities for the coming years.
I’ve also registered on www.lifereimagined.org to learn more about the six step approach for the next part of my journey. According to Life Reimagined there are “no old rules, no outdated societal norms, no boundaries of convention or expectations on this path.” (Sounds fab!)
I hope you’ll join me as I reflect, connect, explore, choose, repack, and act with Life Reimagined. Oh, come on and join me. Ooh,ooh,ooh, please do! It will be much more fun (and less scary) if you’re there too.
Judi
Disclaimer: This post is supported by Life Reimagined (www.lifereimagined.org): your guide to rethinking what’s possible and seizing your “what’s nest” in work, relationships, health, personal finance and more. All opinions are my own.
I’m right there with you, sister! It’s a fantastic time, but also full of a lot choices and without many road maps. I’m reading this book too and it is nailing so many things I’ve been thinking. We are experiencing a life phase unlike any before us. There are no rules because this game of a long and productive midlife has never existed before in the history of ever (or at least since the Flood of Noah).
Having easy to use tools to help us navigate these uncharted waters is wonderful. I love what AARP is doing these days. It’s definitely not your grandma’s AARP!
Chloe, I so agree with your outlook on this time of life. We have the wisdom and time to chart a new course.Life Reimagined can help us do that.
Judi, you are an inspiration in your very positive attitude about this next phase of your life! No doubt, it was difficult closing the book on your corporate career after 30 years in one company. Plus, saying goodbye to your mom must have also been very painful. But your optimism and the positive steps you have taken to change your life are admirable. Looking forward to joining you on the Life Reimagined Journey. Thanks for leading the way.
To The Grown and Flown Team, thank you for your kind words. I’ve been working on this journey for the past six years since losing my husband a few weeks before I turned 50. It’s a reminder to be grateful for each day and to live life to the fullest while you’re around.
Judi, I’m right there with you taking my own journey of discovery. I’m moving next week from CT to Charlotte, NC. After spending my whole life in New England, I am starting over in the South. I’m looking forward to the challenges and confident “it’s all good!” It looks like there are many of us having this same experience. I’m glad I found this clubhouse to belong to!
Lori, hope you’ll become a part of my community of inspiring boomer women. Good luck with your move. I heard Charlotte is a great place to live, especially during your life after 50.
You’ve more than earned the chance to enjoy the difference and imagine the fabulous differences to come. You truly are an inspiration. Best to you on the journey… and with the AARP endeavor. Cheers to you and Life Reimagined!
Thanks Lisa. Sometimes it is hard to accept the good things in life too.
Thanks for giving us some insight on your reimagined life. Scary stuff and exciting. All my best to you as you continue your journey.
Thanks Karen. I’ve been working on my change for several years and it’s exciting to see all the possibilities ahead. It’s great to be driven by passion instead of fear.
Isn’t it wonderful? I can relate to all of these changes. I wish you all the best in your continuing retirement!
Thanks Carol. I wish there was a new word for retirement. Maybe Life Reimagined will come up with a new meme. It’s all about possibilities at this age.
Very inspiring. Bought the book. Excited about possibilities.
Laura, go for it! There are so many possibilities for life after 50 or before 50. Look forward to hearing your reactions to the Life Reimagined book.
Hi Judi! Congratulations on embracing your new and re-imagined life! It sounds to me like you’ve learned to follow your heart and create a life that makes your heart sing. I happen to call that a “SMART” life! Looking forward to see where you go from here! ~Kathy
Kathy, Thanks for your vote of confidence. I’m excited to see next steps too and hope the Life Reimagined tools will help me figure it all out. Will have to check out your SMART Living blog.
It’s wonderful, isn’t it? I’m not retired, but self-employed and it allows me to set my schedule. I get up when I want, I work when I want, I exercise when I want… and it makes a huge difference in the quality and quantity of life… everyone should find their passion and use their gifts to support their life and create a lifestyle the way they want it. Great post, Judi!
Thanks Cindy. You are lucky to have such a flexible job.
Congratulations, Judy, on changing your life and enjoying the new one! Amazing that you worked for one company for 30 years. Almost unheard of these days. Hope next year is a good one for you. I live in the Boston area, and today is a day of reflection for many. Hard to believe a year has passed.
Thanks Allison for your well wishes. It’s true most people don’t stay at one company for three decades. I had many opportunities to learn and grow. Now I’m ready for “what’s next!”
I love this post. It resonated with me. Thank you for sharing your journey of reinvention!
Mary, So glad this post touched you. It makes me happy when my readers are impacted by my writing.
I declared myself a travel blogger in my reinvented life. I’m still not exactly sure where that’s going, but I’m enjoying it. One thing I’ve already realized is that for travel bloggers over 50, the journeys are not all tangible and they don’t all come with frequent flyer miles. 🙂
Suzanne, Congrats on reinventing your life. I love to travel too. Yes, blogging is an enjoyable second career. Some bloggers are very successful and work at it 24/7 to monetize. My advice is to do what you love, follow your passion and the rest will come in time. And if it doesn’t, less is always more, especially during your life after 50.
Sorry about the lose of your mother. I have also had alot of changes in the last couple of years so I understand. Sounds like it was a good decision though so I say “Good for you!”
Rena, thanks for your kind regards. Hope you are managing through your changes in a positive way.
Even after 4 years of empty-nesting, I still find myself feeling a little guilty about all of the freedom I have to choose what I want to do with my team instead of being a full-time mom. You sound like you have no problem with your freedom! I am especially impressed that you are cooking for yourself – I sometimes feel like my husband and I end up eating out far too often.
Sharon, I am enjoying my freedom but do feel a tinge of guilt now and then. Whenever I feel guilt I think about the 30+ years I worked so hard and realize that I deserve this time to explore. I’ve been cooking a lot more since I have been told by my doctor to go on a gluten-free, lactose-free diet. My boyfriend and I still find places to go out too.