Good Housekeeping, Woman’s Day and L’Oreal Paris hosted a “50 Over 50” luncheon at Hearst Tower in New York City this week and I was pleased to attend. The event celebrated 50 accomplished women over 50 and also featured a panel discussion with celebs including actresses Kyra Sedgwick and Whoopi Goldberg, designer Cynthia Rowley, and journalist moderator Soledad O’Brien.
Whoopi Shares Her Advice
Before lunch I was so excited to chat with one of my favorite stars on the red carpet. “What advice would you give to women over 50?” I asked Whoopi. Being her comedic self she said, “Get over it! Why should it be any different? Oh, and always have lube!” Yes, yes, yes, I can definitely relate – menopause has dried me out from head to toe.
After I ate the entire Tiramisu on my dessert plate, I settled in for the panel discussion about love, life and beauty for those of “the perfect age.” (I cannot resist a delicious Tiramisu. Nor should I ever again during my life after 50. As the panelists attested — life is too short to miss out on the positives at this point.)
Is Over 50 #ThePerfectAge?
The conversation was lively as Soledad opened by asking the panelists if they thought about 50 when they were 25. Most didn’t. And if not, when they started thinking about approaching 50.
Kyra chimed in “I thought I had it all together at 25. The gift of getting older is that you realize how little you know and how much further you have to go. I was super nervous about turning 50. Then I turned 50 and all those cliches about being kinder and wiser are true. I have the courage of my convictions a lot more. I’ve earned a seat at the table.”
Whoopi remarked that she thought about turning 50 “the night before” her fiftieth birthday. Be glad you get to be 50 because a lot of people (many years before) didn’t make it to 50. I look the same. Sixty is a bit of a bitch,” Whoopi said. (Oh no, Whoopi. I’m approaching 60.)
She went on to share about her younger years growing up in the projects, having a great mom to look up to, becoming a grandmother at 33 and seeking out new opportunities whenever they were offered. “My mother said if you can take the consequences, you can do whatever you want,” added Whoopi.
Cynthia responded “I’m from the denial kind of way of thinking about it. I’m always thinking about the future. We should not have any preconceived expectations about any age. It’s important to always try and reinvent yourself. Keep your curiosity.”
“I just don’t care about the consequences anymore. There’s a phrase for that ‘zero f–ks. Nothing troubles you anymore,” said Soledad. She asked panelists if they are more likely to take opportunities now that they wouldn’t have taken earlier in their career.
Cynthia said, “When I turned 50, my high school friend said it’s like you’re at the top of the rollercoaster and all you can do is put your arms up and scream – in a fun way. About her designing, Cynthia shared “Now I find myself saying yes to almost everything.”
Kyra told us that she was “filled with self doubt” when she was younger. In 2007 she bought the rights to a novel and wasn’t ready to direct. Years later she said: “There’s a turning point moment. I went into the meeting at 50 and I wanted to direct.” The film, Story of a Girl, will premiere this summer on Lifetime.
Whoopi urged Kyra and all of us:, “Don’t apologize. Stick up for what you believe.”
The Time Is Now
“If you’re not going to do it now, then when?” asked Soledad.
Whoopi agreed, “You only get one life. It only comes around once. So sometimes you have to take a shot.”
Cynthia talked about how she was so focused on building her career when she was younger and now she is more open to taking risks. “Because what’s the worst that can happen?” she said.
People Are Living Longer
The four agreed that there has been a transformation in aging. Those over 50, 60, 70, 80 and even in their 90s are more active and practice lifestyles geared to better health and wellness.
Cynthia said, “If you look better, you feel better.”
There was some talk of menopause. Although Whoopi said that most women don’t talk about what happens in menopause. She noted: “The greatest thing I learned is that there are certain things that were out of my hands. You shouldn’t be afraid. Your body is telling you it’s time to do other things.”
Moms and Mentors
When asked about women who inspire you, each recognized her mom.
Kyra mentioned that her mom, who was sitting beside her at the luncheon, changed careers at 50. “She is 85 and continues to work every day,” said Kyra. (See the picture of Kyra and her mom below.)
Whoopi talked about her mom too: “My mom was a Headstart teacher. She had a nervous breakdown and had to come back. Her illness made her really honest. She had a very good time right up until the end.”
Cynthia shared that she took a little piece from a lot of different people as well as from her mom.
Honoring 50 Over 50
The top stars of the afternoon were the 50 strong, accomplished and confident women who were honored for their impressive array of experience and achievements during their life after 50. Being a foodie, I was glad to meet two of the honorees pictured below (l to r) Lucero Martinez, executive chef, Pompano and Susan Ungaro, president of the James Beard Foundation. You can read more about all the winners at the following links:
♥ 10 Women Who Light Up the Arts Scene:
♥ 10 Women Changing the Ways We See the World
♥ 10 Power Players Blazing New Trails Beyond the Boardroom
♥ 10 Women Redefining the meaning of Success at 50+
♥ 10 Women Who Live to Change Lives
Taking The Next Step
“How do you feel about changing course at the age of 50?” asked Soledad in her closing question. “About next steps?” Each panelist shared their words of wisdom:
Cynthia remarked: “Make sure you pare down all your other responsibilities. Get nimble. Get naked and dive in!”
Kyra quoted author Brene Brown, “Be bold and dare greatly.” She also said, “Ask for advice. When I was becoming a director, I met with every director who would meet with me.”
Whoopi said: “Life is short. If you want to make a change, try it. There’s nothing wrong with a fail. You’re not going to be able to do everything, but you can try everything.”
A Special Beauty Giveaway
Join the conversation. How would you answer these questions from the panel discussion? Or what advice would you give to women who are turning 50. Share your thoughts with a comment. I’m going to randomly pick a winner to receive a sampling of the L’Oréal USA products that are perfect for #theperfectage.
Awesome! I wish I was there. Maybe next year!
Kim, you too maybe will be a nominee!
I love this, Judy! It must have been an incredible event and you were so fortunate to be there! I so enjoyed reading this. Hope all is well and take care. Namaste (just came from my first yoga class since NOV due to illness. Feels SO good!) xoxo
Cathy, maybe you will be a nominee next time!
Great article, Judy! Everything is relative. Now that many of us are living longer and healthier, 50 may be only the halfway point. My mom, now 92, tells those of us in our 50s and 60s “you’re still young,” as though we’re 35 or 40. I believe that at 50, we’ve got two or three more chapters–opportunities to express curiosity and creativity, focus on the few things in our lives that really matter, practice gratitude, and have fun!
Thanks Jacqui. You are lucky to have such a vibrant mom.
I think it’s nice to hear all of the positives. Because it’s so much easier once we get older!! If we all concentrated on the good things, then younger women might realize it’s not bad!!
Sounds like a great event! I agreed with everything Whoopi said! Being over 50 has it’s own perks, like having the TV to myself finally! And a quiet house.
P.S. I wonder if Whoopi knows about Whoopie Pies in Lancaster PA? Just a thought.
Patty, glad you enjoy your post 50 life.