7 Reasons Why Having A Boyfriend Post 50 Is The Best

life after 50, over 50, retirement, baby boomer women, baby boomers“Happy anniversary,” I said to my boyfriend L yesterday. “I am so glad you didn’t walk out the back door of Starbucks when I walked in to meet you six years ago.”

“I can’t believe it’s been six years,” replied L. “Time flies when you’re having fun.

Entering The World of Online Dating 
Widowed at 50, I wasn’t sure what to expect when I ventured into dating after 24 years of marriage. I was older and wiser, but totally new to the world of online courtship. I had met my husband M through a personal ad in the Village Voice back in 1982, so finding a match on JDate in 2009 wasn’t all that different — except now you could see people’s pictures.

L had a full head of gray hair (√), wasn’t wearing any polyester (√√√√), was a former New Yorker like me (√ √), and grew up in the Bronx also like me (√√√).

There was a comfort level, lots of camaraderie, and laughter that we shared in the early days getting to know each other. It was fun to have a companion and partner after more than 18 months of being alone.

“Would I ever want to marry again?” I often thought to myself during the first years of our relationship. “Would I ever want to live with my boyfriend L during my life after 50?” – was another popular Q. The answer was usually “maybe” as I saw other friends happily remarry after widowhood or a later-in-life divorce.

Viking river cruise, Portugal, life after 50, boomer travel, Douro river

My boyfriend L and I are still together after our first-ever international trip.

Why Having A Boyfriend Post 50 Is The Best
Now as we celebrate our six years together, I no longer desire a diamond ring or wedding band on my finger. Nor do I wish for a housemate. I love having a boyfriend at this age and love being in a grownup “L.A.T. – Living Apart Together” relationship. It’s the best. Here’s why: Continue reading