New Shades For Sunny Days

life after 50, Dioptics Solar Shield Sunglasses, over 50, sunglassesThis weekend I spent a wonderful two days in NYC to kick off my retirement from my full time corporate job. After 30 years, it was time to have some fun in my favorite city. The weather cooperated with two sunny days.

On Saturday I went to the American Society of Journalists and Authors Conference at the Roosevelt Hotel. I met some very talented writers and consider them to be my mentors. Many had written novels, non-fiction and memoirs. Several had written more than one book. It felt good to say that I am now a “writer” too…and maybe one day I will be an author as well.

On Saturday evening, my kids A and D took me out to celebrate my retirement. We went to Parm, a small, reasonably priced Italian restaurant on the edge of Little Italy (Parm is located at 248 Mulberry St. between Prince & Spring in NoLIta.) My son D is such a foodie and knows all the hot spots around town. We dined on some of the best meatball parm sandwiches, eggplant parm and ooh,ooh,ooh yummy garlic bread. The garlic bread was well-baked, very crispy and served with a rich ricotta cheese and smooth tomato sauce to top it off. To end the meal we had Parm’s ice cream cake which includes three layers of ice cream – pistachio, strawberry and chocolate – with crunchy chocolate bits in-between. Not a spoonful was left by the time we finished.

On Sunday, my daughter A and I headed out apartment shopping. It was a bright sunny day in NYC. I took along the sample of Dioptics Solar Shield® sunglasses that I had received from the Vibrant Nation’s Vibrant Influencer Network, to shade my eyes from the sun.

“What happened to your new Marc Jacobs purple sunglasses?” asked A. “Didn’t you bring your new prescription sunglasses?”

“I love my Marc Jacobs purple prescription sunglasses, however, the glass case is rather large,” I told A. “I enjoy wearing them when I am at the beach, but since we are going to be going in and out of many buildings today and I am going to have to take my glasses on and off, I thought it would be a better idea to try my Dioptics Solar Shield® sunglasses, which fit over my progressives.” I was so glad I had made that decision.

I loved the Dioptics brand. They easily fit over my Silhouette titanium prescription eyeglasses, which I also love because they are so light. I have Silhouette sunglass clip-ons, but the Dioptics brand was even more convenient. Solar Shield® sunglasses are made to fit over your prescription glasses or readers for convenient sun protection. They also have a lightweight nylon frame, polarized lenses to reduce glare, and the lenses block 100% UV rays. Plus the lenses are scratch resistant, which is really good. (Let’s see…we saw about 8 – 10 apartments and I must have taken my Solar Shield® sunglasses on and off about 20 to 30 times that day as we went from apartment to apartment. It was so easy.)

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Do I look like my idol Audrey Hepburn in my Dioptic Solar Shield sunglasses?

Are they as fashionable as my Marc Jacobs sunglasses? Well, not really. But I chose the Fashion Collection and as you’ll see from my picture, I thought I looked pretty fashionable in my shades on Sunday. What do you think – do I look like my idol Audrey Hepburn? And for sure, they were really practical and easy to wear and to take on and off. I’m definitely going to pack them for my trip to France.  Of course, my Marc Jacobs prescription sunglasses are coming to France too, I’ll wear them on the beach in Nice.

The Dioptics Solar Shield® sunglasses are really reasonably priced at around $25 a pair, so I may get another pair from the Designer Templates Collection just to keep in my car or to go with my black and coral clothing. Black frames are very trendy this year. (Note that on the Dioptics website it says that the sunglasses are 15% off right now.)

So, did A find a Manhattan studio she liked? Yes, yes, yes. There were so many she liked…and I liked too. I asked the agent if he would give us a special deal if we bought two apartments. “I like your thinking,” said the real estate agent K.

Wink, wink – I had my snazzy sunglasses on when I asked him this trick question, so he could not tell that I was really only joking. That’s not to say that when I become a rich and famous memoirist that I won’t be back to buy my own sunny studio on Sutton Place.

Judi

 

 

 

A Remarkable Achievement

A few months ago, I decided to submit my blog for a Webby Award. “Why not,” I thought at the time as I filled out the nomination form and submitted my registration fee. Then I forgot all about it.

I received an email yesterday: “The wait is almost over! The International Academy of Digital Arts and Sciences will officially announce the Nominees and Honorees for The 17thAnnual Webby Awards tomorrow, April 9th, 2013. All official Nominees and Honorees will receive a notification email tomorrow and packets via postal mail within a few days of the Academy’s announcement.”

“That’s right, I do remember I submitted my blog,” I said to myself. “Yes, I did submit a nomination…but I’ll never win. The competition is fierce. No way will I stand a chance. That was a waste of time and money. Could have bought a new handbag or a new pair of shoes with that money.”

I received an email today.

Are you ready?

Are you sure you’re ready?

Are you really, really, really ready to hear what the email said?

Absolutely, positively want to know who was an honoree? Do ya? Do ya? Do ya?

Drum roll please. Another drum roll please. Excuse me, please bring in the marching band too.

I opened the email today and here’s what it said:

“It is my pleasure to inform you that A Baby Boomer Woman’s Life After 50 has been selected as an Official Honoree in The 17th Annual Webby Awards in the Personal Blog or Website category.”

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My blog is a 2013 Webby Award Official Honoree in the Personal Blog or Website category.

“In recognition of the exceptional quality of submissions received this year, the Academy has acknowledged outstanding entries as Official Honorees, alongside our Nominees. With  11,000 entries received from all 50 U.S. states and over 60 countries, the Official Honoree distinction is awarded to the top 15% of all work entered that exhibits remarkable achievement. Congratulations – this is an outstanding accomplishment for you and your team!”

Twist and shout, twist and shout! Scream out loud! Twist and shout! Wow-o-wow! My little blog…Judi’s little blog…is an Official Honoree in The 17th Annual Webby Awards (click on the link to see my listing). While I didn’t make it into the top five nominee spot this year, getting into the top 15% truly is a remarkable achievement.

Why am I so excited to be honored? The Webby Awards is the Internet’s most respected symbol of success. Honorees are selected for recognition based on excellence in criteria ranging from content, structure and navigation, visual design, functionality, interactivity and overall experience to content, creativity, engagement and quality of craft.

Winners are chosen by the International Academy of Digital Arts & Sciences a global organization whose newest members include Tumblr founder David Karp, New York City Chief Digital Officer Rachel Sterne, Lauging Squid founder Scott Beale as well as CEO of Rovio Mikael Hed, co-founder of Instagram Kevin Systrom, as well as director Darren Aronofsky, Martha Stewart, Huffington Post Media Group President Arianna Huffington, Twitter co-founder Biz Stone, musician David Bowie, Internet co-creator Vint Cerf, Virgin Group Chairman Richard Branson, and R/GA Chairman and CEO Bob Greenberg.

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I have a new little black dress for The Webby Awards Gala.

Will I get to go to the gala awards event at Cipriani in NYC in May and mingle with the The Webby Award winners and media moguls of the worldwide web?

I don’t know if I’ll be invited. But if I am invited, I already have my little black dress. I bought my little black dress several years ago and I knew I would eventually wear it to a special occasion. It is a strapless form-fitting dress with a big frou-frou flower on the shoulder. If I go to the awards event, I’ll be sure to tell you all about it. And if they let me, I will be bringing my teammates from Cataleno & Co. and BTwoDesign, who helped me create my blog and continue to support my work.

Okay, bring on the applause. I’m ready boomer girls. Life after 50 is grand. Ain’t it?

Judi

A Daughter Is A Precious Gift

It’s the first week of April. That means my daughter’s birthday is coming up and my daughter A is inching up the age bracket. I won’t tell you her exact age (she wouldn’t want me to). I’ll just tell you that she is twenty-something – somewhere between 25 and 30 years old.

It’s been more than a quarter of a century since A came into my life. I was just about the age she is turning this week when I became pregnant for the first time. I was so excited when she popped out of my belly. “It’s a girl,” said the obstetrician. “You have a daughter.” I was scared too. I became a mom and at times I felt like a child myself. How was I going to take care of a baby girl? (Separately, why don’t babies come with a set of instructions on how to be cared for? Huh?  Wish someone would figure out how to do this by now and tweet it out to the world! It would make parenting a whole lot easier.) Would I be able to pass on the family values that my mom (and dad) had passed on to me? Would A and I have the same close bond that my mom and I had from childhood through adulthood?

Looking at the woman A has become, I think I did a pretty good job. (Okay, okay, I must give a huge amount of credit to her dad too. My late husband M was a great dad. He would be so proud of his daughter.) She is a fashionista like me and like her late grandmother P . She is smart and has traveled the world, much more so than I did at her age. She lives in the big city, NYC, just like I did when I was twenty-something. She is on the path to a successful career. I know she will be a CFO one day. Yes she will. She will pursue her aspirations and dreams.

And hopefully one day, yes hopefully one day, she will give birth to a daughter just like I gave birth to her. (Of course, she has time to have a daughter – I am much too young to be a grandma or nana or mom mom yet. Much too young.)

I didn’t know what to get A for her birthday. I’m taking her and her brother D to France next month to celebrate my retirement from my 30+ years of corporate life. That’s her (and D’s) BIG birthday gift this year.  However, being the mom that I am, I wanted to get something small, something tiny but special, to celebrate A’s birthday this week.

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This book by Marci of Children Of The Inner Light struck a special cord with me as I celebrate my daughter's birthday this week.

As I walked into Whole Foods tonight, I found the perfect gift. It is a book. A book by an author who I never read before. The author is named Marci and the book is called “To My Daughter – Love and Encouragement to Carry With You On Your Journey Through Life.” Marci looks to be a boomer girl like me and her company is called Children of The Inner Light.

I stood at the table at the back of the store and read the entire book before I bought it. Just like the book jacket says, “This book has all the right amount of magic and emotion to let your daughter know the unconditional love you feel for her. It is everything you’ve ever wanted to say to your daughter in a way that will touch her heart as much as she has touched yours.” Marci’s words are so eloquent and her stick figures that accompany the words so cute.

Each paragraph was better than the next. My favorite paragraph was titled “I Just Have One Question…Where Did The Time Go?” It is exactly how I am feeling about my daughter A as she approaches her next birthday and as I look back on her life during my life after 50. Here’s Marci’s answer:

“Wasn’t it just yesterday that you were a baby in my arms? I looked at your precious face and wondered where life would take you. Today, I look at the person you’ve become…strong, kind, thoughtful, caring, and optimistic, and I realize that the dreams I held in my heart for you are alive in your beautiful spirit.”

Happy Birthday A! Happy Birthday To You! I hope you read this book cover to cover just like I did tonight. A daughter is truly a precious gift. Cherish all the words, one page is better than the next.

Judi

P.S. – Congrats to Nancy McMahon on winning the March raffle prize of the “Reader’s Digest The Digest Diet.” The book is coming your way soon. I’ll be reaching out to you via email. Thanks for your comment on the blog post: Staying Fit and Fabulous After 50.

P.S.S. – Be sure to read the press on JudiBoomergirl’s blog featured this week in Harvard Business Review at HBR Blog. Read all the great news about the power of boomer girls. We are a strong and vibrant group of women.

Staying Fit and Fabulous After 50

In recognition of March National Nutrition Month, I asked my BFF and expert dietitian, Laura Sabban MS RD CSR, to provide her views on two diet books that came my way. The books are “The Digest Diet” and “The Digest Diet Cookbook” by Liz Vaccariello, editor-in-chief of Reader’s Digest and coauthor of the bestseller “Flat Belly Diet!” (Note that the PR lady did not send a copy of the “Flat Belly Diet!” which sounds interesting to me since I do not have a flat belly but would really like to know if it is possible to ever have a flat belly again – especially after having two children during my life before 50.)

So what did my BFF Laura have to say about staying fit and fabulous in our fifties? “Selling magazines and diet books making us think it is easy to shed pounds at this age is making people rich. But a lifetime of habit isn’t going to change without some effort and we need to be realistic about what it takes to be able to avoid those elastic-waist pants,” says Laura. (I know Laura, I don’t want to have to only rely on stretch pants as I age.)


In reviewing the books, Laura comments that “The Digest Diet” and its companion cookbook start out saying it will be easy to make huge lifestyle changes. “The author Liz promises that there are magic foods to eat that ‘release fat’, and that you won’t be miserable or hungry because the foods are so satisfying,” says Laura.

“Indeed the recipes are truly interesting and photographed in stunning color. However she promises that you’ll lose an average of 11 pounds in 3 weeks and that you can exercise at your own pace…as long as you follow the diet exactly, do high-intensity interval training (!!!), spend your Sunday afternoon cooking organic foods, give up dessert in favor of ricotta cheese and eat a salad when you (invariably) get hungry.”

(Really, I have to do all that? BTW, I did try the Strawberry Almond Shake during the BlogHer conference book event last summer and it was rather tasty. I sampled the shake made with frozen berries, flaxseed, avocado and cocoa powder. A typical shake includes 16 grams of protein. I also found the new cookbook recipes to be appealing and may try to make a few such as the Chicken Piccata with Capers & Olives and the Herb Crusted Salmon. )

“At 1200 calories a day, even with no magic foods, almost anyone can lose weight,” Laura adds. “The science presented isn’t always great but overall, the book does advocate a balanced, healthy approach to dieting and will work for the motivated. The 12 people who ‘tested’ the plan seemed to like it. But I think that boomer women don’t want to spend much time cooking anymore, won’t join a gym if they haven’t already and want to have dessert more than once a week.” (Hmm, hmm, hmm. Laura you are my BFF and I do agree that boomer girls don’t want to spend extra time in the kitchen, but I do know many boomer girls who like to work out at the gym including your BFF.)

Laura is my BFF and a very smart registered dietitian.

As a special guest blogger, Laura provided these simple tips to help boomer girls stay fit and fabulous:

- Firstly, eat three reasonable meals a day. Don’t go more than 5 hours without eating something. Yes, it has to do with insulin levels, but there’s no point in making it more complicated than that. (I agree – breakfast, lunch and dinner – I try not to miss a meal.)

- Second, eat vegetables and fresh fruit as often as you can. No one ever got fat from eating too much fruit. (I’m glad I love fruit – blueberries, strawberries, raspberries, apples, oranges, pears, grapes.)

- Thirdly, choose lower fat dairy products. We eat too much rich cheese on everything. (I really like the Sargento Reduced Fat Cheeses.  You can buy slices or shredded varieties.)

- Fourthly, take a walk every day, weather permitting. Or find another way to keep moving that feels comfortable. It’s also a mood lifter. (Walking does it for me – oh where is that pedometer?)

- And lastly, every day reward yourself with something yummy of about 100 calories—1/2 oz. of chocolate, a small yogurt, a tablespoon of peanut butter on celery, or a snack bag of crackers or cookies. Sometimes just knowing a treat awaits you later makes it easier to hold out against indulging too much earlier in the day. (My treat of the day has to be dark chocolate – my boyfriend L has converted me – it’s the best.)

“Common sense may not be sexy, but it’s all one really needs,” adds Laura.

Now you see why Laura is my BFF?  She is so smart!

If you would like to be entered into the raffle to win a copy of “The Digest Diet,” leave a comment on my blog about how you stay fit and fabulous during your life after 50. Or “like” Judi Boomer Girl on Facebook or “follow” judiboomergirl on Twitter and leave your comment there. Deadline for entry is March 31, 2013.

Judi

Enter To Win Special Promos For Boomer Girls

Here are some fun promotions for boomer girls (boomer guys and boomlets are eligible too) to enjoy from chocolate treats to ways to enhance your sleep  during a night of hot flashes:

Chocolate Treats For My Fellow Boomer Girls: Just say “chocolate” and “shopping” in the same sentence and you have my attention. So when Chuao  told me that they are giving America a chocolate makeover with their handcrafted, all-natural gourmet goodies, now available in select Target stores and specialty retailers nationwide – I had to share the news. To celebrate, Chuao is launching a Sweet Makeover sweepstakes and offering my blog readers the chance to win a $1,000 designer shopping spree on Shopbop.com

To enter, simply like Chuao’s Facebook page where you can then enter the sweepstakes for a chance to win the $1,000 designer shopping spree. While there also check out these fabulous prizes Chuao is giving away each week:

- A one-year subscription to Birchbox ($120 value) (Birchbox provides makeup samples.)

- Philosophy Miracle Worker Collection ($190 value) (I love Philosophy products.)

- A Broscato Vibrastrait flat iron ($150 value)

- Clarisonic Mia2 Skin Cleansing System ($150 value) (I’ve been using my Clarisonic Mia that the nice PR lady sent to me and really like the way it cleanses my skin. Hope it helps wash my wrinkles away.)

- Gourmet Chuao chocolate ($180 value)

Chuao will be sending some chocolates for me to sample and I’ll be sharing them with you. If you like Judi Boomer Girl on Facebook or follow judiboomergirl on Twitter or leave a comment on my blog by November 15, you might just win some chocolates. I’ll be randomly selecting one lucky winner!

Sleep LIke A Pro: The makers of SHEEX, a new line of performance sheets for unrivaled sleep, sent some samples of their new pillowcases for me to try. SHEEX bedding is made with performance fabrics that are similar to athletic wear, enabling better temperature control, moisture transport, breathability and superior feel. While I didn’t have any hot flashes the week I slept on my SHEEX, I found the cases to be very soft. I also let my boyfriend L try a pillowcase too…I’m such a nice girlfriend!

And now I want to share SHEEX with my blog readers. To enter the raffle to win a set of SHEEX click here. The winner will be randomly selected in December. Deadline to enter is two weeks from this post, so hurry and sign up. Tell your family and friends too – the more the merrier.

During my life after 50, I’m always interested in learning about ways to improve my sleep. To find out more about sleep health and fitness, visit www.sleepfoundation.org.

Hope everyone on the east coast survived Hurricane Sandy and are safe and warm. I had minimal damage to my “condo on the corner” at the Jersey shore. I was very lucky. To donate to those in need go to www.redcross.org.

Judi

My New White Button Down Shirt

There’s a chill in the air. The fall equinox has arrived. And I just took my wool clothes out of storage today.

I’ve been thinking about fall fashions now that the weather is cooler. Thanks to my friends at Foxcroft, I now have a crisp white button down shirt to add to my fall wardrobe. The nice thing about the Foxcroft shirt is that it is 100% cotton, non-iron and shape fit.


All spiffy in my new Foxcroft white button-down shirt

“You look all spiffy in your bright white shirt,” said one of my colleagues. A few others noticed too. I dressed it up with a chunky grey necklace and wore it with my black a-line skirt and a wide patent leather belt. I added a silver and black bracelet (courtesy of my boyfriend L…thank you L) and put on my new Jones NY patent leather and suede flats.  (Lord & Taylor had their annual fall shoe sale last week. The more shoes you bought the more discount you received. Of course, I bought three pair of flats and got 30 percent off. I so wanted the high-heeled platform Tahari Laura pumps. Ooh, ooh, ooh, they would have gone even better with my new white button-down shirt, but I think I would have likely twisted my ankle and ended up with a white cast to go with my new white shirt. So I resisted and bought all flats. Question: I’ve been using my DVR to tape the Katie Show the past week. How does Katie Couric wear such high heels every day – she is 55 – guess she doesn’t do much walking in her shoes?)

My New Jones New York Gabbiano Flats in Black Patent and Suede

I realized that the reason I don’t own any white button-down shirt is because it always gets dirty. While I did not wear a bib the day I wore my new white shirt, I did eat all white foods – milk for breakfast, vanilla yogurt for lunch, an apple for a snack (the juice from the apple ran clear.)  Wearing my new white shirt was definitely good for my diet and I can attest to the “non-iron” attribute, as I did wash and dry it in my washer and dryer and the shirt was still in good shape and still white. (No ironing for moi…not during my life after 50.)

Fellow boomer girls, if you would like to purchase a new white button-down shirt or a striped or printed one (I really like the black and white stripped shirt but it was out of stock in my size), Foxcroft is going to provide a 20 percent discount to all my blog readers until October 15, 2012. Check out their website at www.foxcroftcollection.com and use code JUDI20OFF.

I asked the stylist at Foxcroft to provide some Fall Fashion Trends, here are her tips:

- Animal prints: Got it – have a pair of leopard print shoes from 2011.

-  Winter whites: Got it – thank you Foxcroft for my new white button-down shirt.

- Deep regal colors like purple and navy: Love purple, but navy isn’t one of my favorite colors.

- Geometric prints of every kind: I do need to look for some bold colored tops to go with my a-line skirts and create my own geometry. Think my 50-plus figure is turning into a triangle as my hips continue to widen.

- Pair any of these trends with a skinny jean and a heel and you are “Tres Chic!”: Maybe I should go back and get those Tahari Laura heels. The sale is off at Lord & Taylor, but I found them at Piperlime.  Take a look. I do really adore them.

What favorite fall fashions will you be wearing this season?

Judi

A Few Events For Boomer Girls

The summer is over, but the fun still continues with several events I thought you might find of interest. Some of the events are for readers from the Northeast who may be in the area and others are virtual. Check out the fine print, as there is a special discount especially for my blog readers:

Events:

A Live Chat With Aerin Lauder: This live chat is coming up tomorrow, Wednesday, September 5th, so sign up today. Aerin is Estee’s granddaughter and is introducing a new cosmetics collection. The beauty insiders at Who What Wear will be sitting down with Aerin for a Facebook live chat at 12PM EST. Those who RSVP for the exclusive event here will be able to submit any beauty questions they’d like Aerin to answer, during which they’ll also be able to shop her debut collection. You can send in questions for Aerin via Twitter using the hashtag #wwwchat. (I signed up and asked Aerin what her beauty tips are for women 50+. Will let you know what she says, if she answers me.)

The Transition Network Philadelphia Chapter will be having an introductory event on Tuesday evening, September 11th, at Estia Restaurant in Philadelphia, PA. TTN has been described as a “groundbreaking organization focused on women over 50 and the various transitions they face at this stage of life.” To register for this free event and meet the women of this local TTN Chapter go to their site. I signed up and hope to meet this talented group of women. Will you join me?

 

Enjoy and I hope to see you in person sometime soon.

Judi

P.S. – Be sure to participate in my new promo before September 15th. If you leave a comment on my blog at aboomerslifeafter50.com, sign up to receive my blog via email, like me on Facebook @Judi Boomer Girl or follow me on Twitter @judiboomergirl, you will be entered into a random raffle to win a collectible copy of “The Late Show: A Semiwild but Practical Survival Plan for Women Over 50″ by the late Helen Gurley Brown.  As you know, sadly Helen Gurley Brown recently passed away at the age of 90. 


 

JudiBoomergirl’s Raves and Reviews

Hi, all you boomer girls. I thought I would start a new Raves and Reviews blog post to curate some of the boomer girl reads of the week on topics that you have told me you find of interest – beauty, fashion, health and wellness (physical and financial) and most of all, fun! Some of these stories will be from books, magazines, newspapers, (you know I am an avid NY Times subscriber), television shows, or social media that I have stumbled upon. Or, trend-setting information that friends and readers have shared with me. I’ll bring these blog posts to you from time to time. I’ll aim to do it weekly, but don’t want to over commit.

Let me know what you think of these features. Do they spur you to think differently? Do you have a thought you would like to share with other boomer girls? Do you have a boomer girl trending topic you would like to share? If so, please leave a comment.

Here’s what I have for you this week:

  • Retirement: How do you feel about retirement? “According to Teresa Ghilarducci, professor of economics at the New School for Social Research, “Very few people have the money they need for old age, and it’s not their fault.” Read her piece from the NY Times Sunday Week in Review at “Our Ridiculous Approach to Retirement.”
  • Fashion: Do you dream of starting a business during the prime of your life?  Read about Diane Gilman who has had success selling her jeans to baby boomers on HSN. (Go Diane! I’ll have to check you out on HSN.) Here’s Diane’s story on “Selling Fashion With Couch Appeal.”
  • Beauty: Coming up on Monday, July 30th at 9:00 p.m. ET on HBO, be sure to watch (or DVR like I now mastered thanks to my son D) the new documentary on “About Face:The Supermodels, Then and Now.” I loved the quotes from some of the boomer girl models who will be showcased. Listen up: “When you get older you build something else in your core, which goes beyond the physical, because it has to,” says Marisa Berenson. Or as Jerry Hall puts it, “Of course it’s no fun getting old or sick and dying. We all know that is coming and it’s a bore. Why shouldn’t we be allowed to age. When I turned 50, I felt a sense of achievement.” (I so agree with Jerry and Marisa. I’m still strengthening my core every day. Plus, I felt a sense of achievement when I turned 50 and I feel even more accomplishments are on the horizon.)

Enjoy!

Judi

P.S. – Calling all boomer girls…this blog is my newly updated site. I hope you like it. As part of the relaunch, anyone who signs up to receive my posts via email or leaves a comment on any blog post during the month of July, or sends a note to me with feedback about my newly designed blog, will be entered into a raffle for a copy of “I Remember Nothing And Other Reflections” in remembrance of the late writer Nora Ephron. I just received the book in the mail and it is so wonderful that I am going to order another copy for myself.(Note: To leave a comment on a post you can click the little bubble near the title of the post.)

 

Mastering Master Class

When the publicist for “Master Class: Living Longer, Stronger, and Happier” sent an advance copy of Peter Spiers’ new book to me, I  knew it would jump to the top of my pile. After reading the first few chapters, I was hooked.  ”I want to be a Master during this next phase of my life,” I said to myself.  ”What does it take to master the Master Way of Life?”

Spiers is Senior Vice President of Road Scholar, formerly known as Elderhostel, the world’s largest nonprofit organization dedicated to lifelong learning and educational travel. Much of his book is based on research and feedback from past travel participants. Elderhostel changed its brand name a few years ago when they realized that for Baby Boomers the world “elder” is no longer acceptable. (Much agree with the name change. Ooh, ooh, ooh, soon I will be of the age to participate in Road Scholar trips — can’t wait.)

According to Spiers, the four key dimensions of the Master Way of Life are socializing, moving, thinking, and creating. Many who are Masters gravitate to activities that combine a few of these dimensions like gardening, participating in book clubs, volunteering, walking with friends for exercise, maintaining a website or blog (me, me, me, meee!) or other activities.

Spiers says: “For everyone, no matter what the specific trigger, this stage starts when something causes you to look up and see that you’ve been running at full speed, often out of an admirable obligation to care for someone else, and to realize that it’s time to take care of yourself for a change.” (Hmm, hmm, this is starting to sound like someone I know. Ah, yes, this sounds like me, me, me, meee! I do hear that small voice in the back of my head. It is planting new dreams and reawakening old ones. It is starting to scream pretty loud.)

Spiers says that “the more you make of this stage of your life, the longer it can last.” He says that “true Masters – are still going strong in this life stage in their eighties and even nineties.” (I think my mother who is 90 is definitely a true Master. You go girl. Yes, you keep going and I’m going to follow. And so is my sister N.)

Spiers says that “this life stage can last 30 or even 40 years, making it for some extraordinary people the longest, happiest, and most enriching and satisfying period in their lives.” (Wow-o-wow, I am so excited to become a Master.)

Spiers provides a step-by-step guide with exercises, charts and activities to become your own Master. He also provides life lessons from those who are already mastering Master Class. As part of this blog post, Spiers offered to share one of his own life lessons. Here’s his story:

“My childhood friend Kevin and I reconnected through Facebook; we hadn’t been in touch since the day in 1972 when we graduated from high school.  Despite the gap of time we soon discovered a shared passion—running.  Kevin was more dedicated, tracking his distance and pace with a GPS watch and posting his runs to a website called RunKeeper.  I was more casual, running 10 or 12 miles each week to Kevin’s 20 or more and keeping no records.  Kevin’s approach inspired me; at the end of 2011 we formed a goal together to run 2,012 miles in 2012.  I got a GPS watch for Christmas and launched into the quest on New Year’s Day.

Things went well through April.  The winter was mild in the Northeast, my favorite dirt trail stayed blessedly clear of snow, and I consistently reached my goal of 84 miles each month.  (I’d even lost eight pounds since the Holidays!)  With a few days left until the first third of the year ended my total mileage stood at 324, 12 miles short of where I needed to be at April’s end to stay on pace.  I ran nine miles on Sunday, April 29th, and needed only three more on Monday.

Five years ago I began to experience intermittent pain in my left knee which my sports doctor diagnosed as arthritis.  The pain came and went and, even when it came, it was tolerable.  I adjusted, cutting exercises like squats and lunges from my gym workouts, and not climbing stairs two at a time.  But I kept running, racking up around 600 miles each year and doing some five- and 10-kilometer races.  A thousand miles in a year didn’t seem like a big stretch, though I guess I knew in the back of my mind that a collision with fate might result.

 So I ran my long weekend run on Sunday, April 29th, and the next day, despite long habit, I didn’t take the day off.  After work that Monday, the last day of April, I ran an easy three miles; reaching the milestone—running those last three miles to push myself through the checkpoint—seemed more important than resting.

The next day, May 1st, I got out of bed and knew immediately something was wrong.  My knee felt stiff, my range of motion limited.  All day the pain gathered; by late afternoon I felt like a giant had put one hand on my thigh, another on my calf and twisted the two parts of my leg in opposite directions.  I swallowed some ibuprofen, made an appointment with my knee doctor, and waited.

 Within days the pain began to subside, but I knew better than to risk running for a while.  I swam a bit and, after a week or ten days, tentatively ventured out to walk a few miles at a medium clip.  A week later I started running again, taking it short and slow.  On the last Sunday in May I ran five miles, and on the first Sunday in June—just two days before my doctor’s appointment—I ran seven.

The next day I was again in a lot of pain; I could have scripted my doctor’s appointment. We compared x-rays from five years ago with new ones and the incremental wear on my knee was obvious.  It wasn’t anything catastrophic—just a steady grinding, another notch or two ratcheted toward never running again.

 Don’t stop running, the doctor told me.  Just not so far and so often.  Reality had finally caught me, slamming right into my thousand-mile dream.

 I’m fifty-seven.  It’s getting harder for me to hear conversations in a noisy bar or restaurant.  My shoulder sometimes aches, thanks to tendonitis and a couple of long-ago bicycling accidents.  And now my left knee was sending a message I couldn’t ignore.

 Despite these inevitable signs of aging, I’m not throwing in the towel.  Physical fitness is too important, not only in combating everything from heart disease to diabetes, but for cognitive health, too.  Our culture separates mind and body, forgetting that the brain is just another organ, dependent on a healthy cardio-vascular system to provide it with oxygen and sugar.

 I’ll adjust and find another, lower-impact form of exercise to obsess about.  As a teenager I swam competitively and, though I don’t cycle as much as I used to, my Cannondale is still hanging in the garage.  And the doctor didn’t say I couldn’t run at all, so… triathlon, anyone?

I hope Peter Spier’s story inspires you to think differently about how you want to Master your own journey during your life after 50. Let me know what you plan to do. Share a comment or two.

Judi

Quintessential Anna Quindlen

I have always loved journalist and author Anna Quindlen’s writing. I used to read her Life In The 30s column in the New York Times each week when I was in my 30s. I loved the way she wrote about balancing work and life and how the two often collide. I loved her stories because I could connect with them – it was as though she was describing my unbalanced life with two kids, a husband and a full-time job.

While I am a little further away from 60 than Anna is now, I so enjoyed reading her new book, “Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake.” This time I read Anna’s book on my Kindle, although I wish I had a hardcover copy. I found myself constantly wanting to highlight various phrases and pages so I could re-read them again and again. (Instead I used the Clippings tool on my Kindle, to clip and save various sentences and pages.)

“This is me, I agree,” I wanted to tell Anna as I read and re-read each essay. “I feel the same way about aging, I do, I do.”

As Judith Newman said in her review of the book in the New York Times Review, “Each chapter muses on a different aspect of the way Anna’s life (and, by inference, ours) has changed as she moves from her 50s toward her 60s.”

Anna talks about taking greater risks as we get older.  She talks about conquering fears.  When I read about how she finally conquered a headstand, I wanted to send her a note and say “Bravo.”  Anna quotes business guru Deming, who said that “an essential part of maturing, is putting fear aside, because if there’s anything that cripples us it is fear.”

Anna says that many of us with lots of candles on our cake “may not like our age spots or crepey necks, but that we are happier now than we were when we were younger…that we settle into our own skin, even if that skin has sun damage.”According to the Gallup poll of 340,000 people that Anna mentions, people get more contented as they age. “After age fifty there was a change in the weather, and from then on happiness was on an upward trajectory into the eighties. As those in the survey grew older, they reported that stress, anger, sadness all declined.”

Ooh, ooh, ooh. There’s also the Pew study that Anna quotes as well. That study found that most adults over fifty feel at least ten years younger. (Is 50 the new 40? I thought it was the new 30? Some people say that 50 is the new 50. What do you think?)

I don’t want to give away all of Anna’s goodies, so I’ll stop here. I encourage you to download a copy or buy a hardcover book so you can highlight your favorite phrases and sentences as you read. There are essays about girlfriends, mothering adult children, being a parent to parents and a whole lot more.

Ooh, ooh, ooh, there’s one more quote I just have to share. I know you’re going to love it. It’s from Anna’s friend Lesley. Here’s what she said: “On the day my friend Lesley’s first grandchild was born, she sent out a message that ended, ‘You’re never too old to have the best day of your life.’”

Okay, so I haven’t had a grandchild yet. But whether or not I have one, two or none, I still love Lesley’s philosophy about aging. Don’t you?

Judi