I’m Adding Australia To My ‘Not To Be Missed’ Bucket List

Since one of my favorite wines is the Yellow Tail brand from Australia and I do adore Australia’s popular Arnott’s Tim Tam biscuits, I jumped at the chance to attend a special luncheon this week in NYC put on by Tourism Australia. It was pouring rain in the city on Tuesday, so I was especially glad to step into the warmth of The Sunburnt Calf, a quaint Australian bistro on the upper westside (226 W. 79th St.) where we spent the afternoon tasting and hearing about the incredible food and wine culture in Australia.

In his new cookbook, Blood Sugar: The Family, Chef Michael Moore shares the way he manages being a diabetic with inspiring and creative recipes.

After listening to Michael Moore, one of Australia’s most experienced and respected chefs, talk about “why you should go to Australia,” I was immediately hooked. I went to Sydney for business several years ago, but now I want to go back to see the stunning landscapes, nature and welcoming people across all areas of the country. Adelaide, Melbourne, Victoria, Perth and even Tazmania – north, south, east, west – I want to tour them all during my life after 50.

“Why should you go to Australia?” Chef Michael asked the bloggers in the room? “You will have a spiritual connection with a spiritual end. You will be a richer person and a better person.” (All he had to say was spiritual and as a yogi I was hooked – Australia here I come…it’s on my ‘not to be missed’ bucket list .)

Chef Michael went on to describe the amazing food culture in Australia:

The luncheon menu included BBQ'd Barramundi, Rhubarb Gimlets, and Oysters 'Kilpatrick'

1. It’s about ‘attitude’ – being curious and eating authentically. (That’s me, I’m very curious. No wonder I liked the Oysters ‘Kilpatrick’ appetizers of tempura-fried oysters and pickled shallots with worcestershire-bacon butter.)

2. It’s about a certain ‘state of mind’ – Chef Michael said that buckets of beer and barbecues in the backyard are special moments for Australian folks. (Me too. Me too. I am getting relaxed just thinking about grilling burgers on my Weber grill. Is it summertime yet? I think it is summertime in Australia. The seasons are opposite ours in the U.S. that’s why Australia is a perfect vacation spot during the winter months when it’s cold here and warm down under. Speaking of ‘state of mind’, I’m still thinking about the Rhubarb Gimlets that we sampled – they went down pretty smoothly. They were made with rhubarb bitters.)

3. It’s about sophisticated taste, connectedness with farmers and growers and fishermen, and about discovery – Chef Michael said that many restaurants in Australia have a farm to table approach to their cooking with fresh ingredients. (Ooh, I was into discovering the delicious Australian flavors at the luncheon so I ordered BBQ’d Barramundi Fillet with Sea Scallops, Frisee Salad, New Potatoes and Anchovy Aioli. It was scrumptious – I ate it all.)

According to recent research, those who have been to Australia rated it #1 in terms of food and wine. I can definitely see why. Breakfast on Bondi Beach, Sydney Seafood School, The Longest Luncheon Table – all these events sound like so much fun.

I stopped by to see my kids at their jobs in NYC on my way home from the luncheon. “Next year we’ll have to go on a trip to Australia,” I said to my daughter A and my son D. “It’s on my ‘not to be missed’ bucket list.”

“Mom, we have to go to Paris, Provence, and the South of France first in honor of your retirement,” said my daughter A. “Count me in,” said my son D. Hopefully, I’ll have some dollars left after I buy all my lavender in Provence this summer. If not, I’ll have to start saving again for Australia. Meantime, I can always go back to The Sunburnt Calf for another meal. My daughter A says they have a great weekend brunch. Hope to see you there or maybe in Australia next year!

Judi

Mastering Master Class

When the publicist for “Master Class: Living Longer, Stronger, and Happier” sent an advance copy of Peter Spiers’ new book to me, I  knew it would jump to the top of my pile. After reading the first few chapters, I was hooked.  ”I want to be a Master during this next phase of my life,” I said to myself.  ”What does it take to master the Master Way of Life?”

Spiers is Senior Vice President of Road Scholar, formerly known as Elderhostel, the world’s largest nonprofit organization dedicated to lifelong learning and educational travel. Much of his book is based on research and feedback from past travel participants. Elderhostel changed its brand name a few years ago when they realized that for Baby Boomers the world “elder” is no longer acceptable. (Much agree with the name change. Ooh, ooh, ooh, soon I will be of the age to participate in Road Scholar trips — can’t wait.)

According to Spiers, the four key dimensions of the Master Way of Life are socializing, moving, thinking, and creating. Many who are Masters gravitate to activities that combine a few of these dimensions like gardening, participating in book clubs, volunteering, walking with friends for exercise, maintaining a website or blog (me, me, me, meee!) or other activities.

Spiers says: “For everyone, no matter what the specific trigger, this stage starts when something causes you to look up and see that you’ve been running at full speed, often out of an admirable obligation to care for someone else, and to realize that it’s time to take care of yourself for a change.” (Hmm, hmm, this is starting to sound like someone I know. Ah, yes, this sounds like me, me, me, meee! I do hear that small voice in the back of my head. It is planting new dreams and reawakening old ones. It is starting to scream pretty loud.)

Spiers says that “the more you make of this stage of your life, the longer it can last.” He says that “true Masters – are still going strong in this life stage in their eighties and even nineties.” (I think my mother who is 90 is definitely a true Master. You go girl. Yes, you keep going and I’m going to follow. And so is my sister N.)

Spiers says that “this life stage can last 30 or even 40 years, making it for some extraordinary people the longest, happiest, and most enriching and satisfying period in their lives.” (Wow-o-wow, I am so excited to become a Master.)

Spiers provides a step-by-step guide with exercises, charts and activities to become your own Master. He also provides life lessons from those who are already mastering Master Class. As part of this blog post, Spiers offered to share one of his own life lessons. Here’s his story:

“My childhood friend Kevin and I reconnected through Facebook; we hadn’t been in touch since the day in 1972 when we graduated from high school.  Despite the gap of time we soon discovered a shared passion—running.  Kevin was more dedicated, tracking his distance and pace with a GPS watch and posting his runs to a website called RunKeeper.  I was more casual, running 10 or 12 miles each week to Kevin’s 20 or more and keeping no records.  Kevin’s approach inspired me; at the end of 2011 we formed a goal together to run 2,012 miles in 2012.  I got a GPS watch for Christmas and launched into the quest on New Year’s Day.

Things went well through April.  The winter was mild in the Northeast, my favorite dirt trail stayed blessedly clear of snow, and I consistently reached my goal of 84 miles each month.  (I’d even lost eight pounds since the Holidays!)  With a few days left until the first third of the year ended my total mileage stood at 324, 12 miles short of where I needed to be at April’s end to stay on pace.  I ran nine miles on Sunday, April 29th, and needed only three more on Monday.

Five years ago I began to experience intermittent pain in my left knee which my sports doctor diagnosed as arthritis.  The pain came and went and, even when it came, it was tolerable.  I adjusted, cutting exercises like squats and lunges from my gym workouts, and not climbing stairs two at a time.  But I kept running, racking up around 600 miles each year and doing some five- and 10-kilometer races.  A thousand miles in a year didn’t seem like a big stretch, though I guess I knew in the back of my mind that a collision with fate might result.

 So I ran my long weekend run on Sunday, April 29th, and the next day, despite long habit, I didn’t take the day off.  After work that Monday, the last day of April, I ran an easy three miles; reaching the milestone—running those last three miles to push myself through the checkpoint—seemed more important than resting.

The next day, May 1st, I got out of bed and knew immediately something was wrong.  My knee felt stiff, my range of motion limited.  All day the pain gathered; by late afternoon I felt like a giant had put one hand on my thigh, another on my calf and twisted the two parts of my leg in opposite directions.  I swallowed some ibuprofen, made an appointment with my knee doctor, and waited.

 Within days the pain began to subside, but I knew better than to risk running for a while.  I swam a bit and, after a week or ten days, tentatively ventured out to walk a few miles at a medium clip.  A week later I started running again, taking it short and slow.  On the last Sunday in May I ran five miles, and on the first Sunday in June—just two days before my doctor’s appointment—I ran seven.

The next day I was again in a lot of pain; I could have scripted my doctor’s appointment. We compared x-rays from five years ago with new ones and the incremental wear on my knee was obvious.  It wasn’t anything catastrophic—just a steady grinding, another notch or two ratcheted toward never running again.

 Don’t stop running, the doctor told me.  Just not so far and so often.  Reality had finally caught me, slamming right into my thousand-mile dream.

 I’m fifty-seven.  It’s getting harder for me to hear conversations in a noisy bar or restaurant.  My shoulder sometimes aches, thanks to tendonitis and a couple of long-ago bicycling accidents.  And now my left knee was sending a message I couldn’t ignore.

 Despite these inevitable signs of aging, I’m not throwing in the towel.  Physical fitness is too important, not only in combating everything from heart disease to diabetes, but for cognitive health, too.  Our culture separates mind and body, forgetting that the brain is just another organ, dependent on a healthy cardio-vascular system to provide it with oxygen and sugar.

 I’ll adjust and find another, lower-impact form of exercise to obsess about.  As a teenager I swam competitively and, though I don’t cycle as much as I used to, my Cannondale is still hanging in the garage.  And the doctor didn’t say I couldn’t run at all, so… triathlon, anyone?

I hope Peter Spier’s story inspires you to think differently about how you want to Master your own journey during your life after 50. Let me know what you plan to do. Share a comment or two.

Judi

A Visit to ABC Kitchen


“Where do you want to go for your graduation lunch?” I asked my son D a few months before his special day.

“I made reservations for 3:00 p.m. at ABC Kitchen,” said D, “It was voted best new restaurant of 2011 by the James Beard Foundation.”

“Wow-o-wow! I cannot wait to go,” I said with a big grin on my face.

ABC Kitchen is located at
35 E. 18th Street in NYC 

And so it was, on a sunny day in May, a little over a week ago, after my son graduated from college, my son D, my daughter A and I enjoyed one of the best-ever celebratory luncheons at this award-winning restaurant. It was farm-to-table dining, casually elegant, with an artful design and exquisite locally sourced food and organically focused cuisine, just as the press release said.

“What are you going to order?” I asked D and A, as we sat down for lunch. We were all famished and hadn’t eaten since the early morning.

“Do you want a drink?” asked the waitress. “We have a wonderful rhubarb bellini and rhubarb martini.” I was sold and so were my table mates. Rhubarb is one of my favorites.  I adore strawberry and rhubarb pie, rhubarb crumble and rhubarb compote, but had never tried a drink made with rhubarb. “Absolutely,” we all chimed in. A ordered the martini and D and I got a bellini. We raised our glasses and made a toast, “To D on his graduation day and to his ongoing career success.” Sip, sip – down they went.

We chose pretzel crusted calamari with marinara and mustard aioli as an appetizer. The calamari were hot and crispy and the tangy sauces were a nice complement for dipping.


Drumroll please, for our entrees. Ta da, ta da, ta da! All three were simply scrumptious:

I chose the spinach, goat cheese and herb pizza. The crust was thin and the spinach was delicate and flaky. Ooh it was so good, I ate it all. (I did share a slice or two with D and A. I was a nice mom.)

“How do you make this spinach taste so good,” I asked the waitress. “It’s the brick oven,” she replied. (I attempted to copy this pizza recipe this weekend. I bought goat cheese and fresh spinach and used some herbs that I had brought back from Italy. I spread the dough very thin, basted it with olive oil, sprinkled the fresh goat cheese and spinach over the crust and dotted it with herbs. Then I added a few more drops of olive oil over the top. The pizza turned out pretty good, not as good as ABC, since I don’t have a brick oven. We all agreed that next time I’ll load up on the spinach, since the leaves tend to shrink during baking.)

D selected the spice crusted monkfish, pea puree and carrot vinaigrette. It was so flavorful and the fish was tender. Ooh, aah, ooh, aah. We loved the fish.

A wanted a salad and decided on the crispy shrimp, romaine, market vegetables and carrot-sesame vinaigrette. The carrot-sesame dressing was so light and tasty, definitely wish they could bottle that dressing for home use. Or, maybe, ABC will decide to produce a cookbook one day, maybe, maybe.

Did we leave room for dessert? Did we? Did we? You guessed right. Of course, we did.
  
“What do you recommend for dessert?” we asked the waitress.

“You have to try the sundae. It is amazing,” she answered with a grin.

“We’ll share the sundae,” I said. “And since it is a special occasion, we’ll order the cookie plate with lemon drop, chocolate chip cookie, PB marshmallow bar & honey cheesecake bar, too. Two desserts.  Yes, we’ll have two.”

Can you find the 3 scoops of ice cream?

OMG! OMG! OMG! Food coma was about to set in when they brought out the sundae. Listen to what was in this big bowl. I could not believe it was so large. There were three scoops of salted caramel ice cream. (One scoop for each of us, how nice ABC was to give us three scoops.) The ice cream was sitting on chocolate sauce and topped with candied peanuts, caramel popcorn and whipped cream. (Did you get all that, I said three scoops with peanuts, chocolate sauce and caramel popcorn. Do I need to repeat it again? This is definitely one to imitate at home. I would go back to ABC just for this dessert.)

Yes, we finished every last spoonful of the sundae. We left a few cookie morsels on the plate. I paid the bill. And we all agreed that ABC Kitchen is worth waiting on the waiting list for a table. It is truly one of the best…James Beard was right. Hope you’ll remember the first letters of the alphabet and pay ABC Kitchen a visit next time you are in NYC.

“Who is graduating next?” I asked A and D. “We’re done with school for a while mom,” they both quickly replied. “We’re done for now.”

“Well okay then, I’m so proud of you two kids. Yes, I’m very proud. But, we’ll have to go back for my birthday next year. And maybe since you are both working now, you’ll treat your mama to a nice birthday lunch at ABC Kitchen. Okay? I love you two so much. Okay? Do you know what day my birthday is? Should we make the reservations now? Soon? Okay? I love you two so much. As much as a three scoop salted caramel ice cream sundae with chocolate sauce, and candied peanuts and caramel popcorn and whipped cream. And that’s really big.”

Judi

The Best-Ever Pancakes

“The next time you are in NYC, we have to go to the Clinton Street Bakery & Restaurant for breakfast,” said my son D. “They have the absolute best-ever pancakes.”

“I can’t wait,” I replied, “I’ll be in NYC this week for a conference and am going to stay until Saturday.  Let’s go!”

“It’s time to get up mom,” said my daughter A, bright and early on Saturday morning. “We have to meet D and get in line for the best-ever pancakes.  I took a shower, washed and dried my hair, put on my jeans, my long-sleeve black tee and my warm winter coat and was out the door before 9:00 a.m., on a morning when I normally like to relax in bed till noon. However, I love pancakes and the thought of warm fluffy pancakes made my mouth water and my body move quickly into a cab and straight downtown to the lower east side of the city.

When we arrived at the restaurant at 9:10 a.m. (yes, only 10 minutes after it opened) there was already a crowd gathering on the curbside. It is a teeny-tiny place and it seemed that many others wanted their morning pancakes too. “It will be about a 90 minute wait,” said the host. Ooh, ahh. Ooh, ahh. It was really cold outside, almost felt like the freezing mark. Ooh, ahh. Ooh, ahh. Those pancakes look and smell soooooo good.

“Okay,” I said to A and D, as I tapped my boots to keep my feet from icing up. “I’m game. Let’s wait. I do hope I will make it back uptown in time for my bus home by 12:45 p.m.” We stood outside the teeny tiny restaurant as each name was called. And then, and then, and then, the clock struck 10:15 a.m. and it was finally time for our breakfast.

“What would you like to order?” said the nice waitress.

“I want the blueberry pancakes with warm maple butter,” I said. D ordered eggs benedict and A got the farmer’s breakfast with soft scrambled eggs, farmhouse cheese, herb roasted tomatoes and sourdough toast.  ”Should we get a side order of pancakes too?” said A and D. “No, no, no,” I said. “I will not eat all my pancakes. You can definitely have some of my pancakes. I will share them with you.”

We drank our hot coffee while breakfast was prepared. And then our food arrived. The waitress brought our plates to the table.

Ooh, ahh. Ooh, ahh. I thought I had been transported to pancake heaven. They were light. They were fluffy.  They were three large, perfectly round pancakes. They were perfectly placed one on top of the other. Wild Maine blueberries were dripping over the stack and a sprinkling of powdered sugar topped off the plate. Next to the pancakes was a small bowl of warm maple butter. (Yes, it was warm maple butter, not maple syrup.  I think that is one of the things that makes these pancakes taste extra special.)

“Pour the maple butter over the pancakes,” said D. I did exactly as D directed and then I sliced the mound of cakes and put each bite in my mouth until they were all gone. (I did share a few fork-fulls with A and D, like a good mom. I also tried a few bites of D’s delicious homemade biscuit and poached eggs with hollandaise and I sampled a teaspoon of scrumptious homemade raspberry jam on a piece of A’s sourdough toast.)

“I can’t believe I ate all those pancakes,” I said as I wiped my face clean. “They were so good…surely the best-ever pancakes I will consume during my life after 50″

We were finished with breakfast by 11:30 a.m. and promptly on our way back to A’s apartment so I could catch my bus home.

I would definitely do an early morning wake-up call for Clinton Street Bakery pancakes anytime and I highly recommend you do the same when visiting NYC. In fact, I may have to schedule a trip to NYC in February, for National Pancake Month. I read that the restaurant features a different pancake flavor every Monday thru Friday, well into the night. Just remember to bring cash, as no credit cards are accepted. Or if you don’t get to NYC anytime soon, you can always buy The Clinton St. Baking Company cookbook and make your own pancakes.

Judi

P.S. – As part of the BlogHer community of bloggers who are helping to get the word out about a special campaign that kicked off on November 1st, I encourage you to stop by your local Starbucks to make a $5 or more donation to the “Let’s Create Jobs for USA” initiative.  100% of your donation goes to the Opportunity Finance Network to create and sustain jobs in communities across America.

Wisdom From The Zoltar

I love the scene in the movie “BIG” where the character played by Tom Hanks when he is a kid goes to the Zoltar on the boardwalk and is granted a wish. If you saw the movie, you know that the young boy wishes to be big and he grows up overnight. When he wakes up in the morning and his mom goes into his room, she screams because she thinks her son is some strange man.

Why is it that when we are young we want to be older and when we are older we wish to be younger?

I was visiting the American Visionary Art Museum in Baltimore, Maryland, a few weeks ago. It was a very special place.  There was an exhibit on laughter that was just fabulous. It made me laugh like I used to laugh when I was a kid. There were many other wonderful exhibits there by visionary artists. According to the AVAM website, “Visionary art refers to art produced by self-taught individuals, usually without formal training, whose works arise from an innate personal vision that revels foremost in the creative act itself. Visionary artists begin by listening to the inner voices of their soul.”

Whenever I visit an art museum I usually like to stop by the museum shop. With so many fascinating exhibits, I knew the AVAM would have an equally fascinating museum shop. And so it did. And do you know what I saw when I entered? Do you know? Can you guess? Can you guess? Can you guess?

There it stood. There next to the cashier was a Zoltar machine. “Ooh, ooh, ooh,” I said to the museum shop sales woman just like the little boy did in the movie BIG, “How much is it to get my fortune from the Zoltar?”

“Oh that Zoltar,” replied the saleswoman, “He makes so much noise all day that I turn him off. If you want to get your fortune, I’ll have to plug him back in. You’ll need four quarters for a fortune.”

“I’ll have four quarters, please,” I asked the saleswoman as I gave her my dollar bill. She plugged the Zoltar in and he began to speak…

“Zoltar will give you a lot of wisdom,
Age is simply a matter of mind,
If you don’t mind my friend, it doesn’t matter.
Be careful like a little baby.”

Then the Zoltar dispensed my fortune. It was so exciting. Want to know what my fortune said?  Huh? Huh? Huh?  You do want to know?  Here’s what he said:

“I see a great deal of happiness in store for you.” (Glad he sees happiness and not sadness.)

“You will receive a letter soon, and that letter can easily be said to change the whole course of your life.” (I did receive a letter the other day from my doctor’s office saying that my annual mammogram was negative. Since I turned 50, I’m always a tad nervous when I get my mammogram. I was very happy to have a negative report. Have you had your annual mammogram and pap test?  If not, be sure to get your checkup.)

“You deserve this happiness because you have been so faithful and sincere in your love.” (Yes, the Zoltar knows me well.)

“However, if you wish to continue to be happy, you’ll have to learn not to be too trustworthy.  Avoid the flatterers and be a little more careful in choosing your friends.” (Uh, oh. I am very trusting of people.  I’ll have to be more careful during the second half of my life.)

“Amethysts were made especially for you.  Wear them and good luck will follow.” (Okay, okay, okay. Now the Zoltar is talking my language. I love that purple gemstone. Ever since I received an amethyst crystal from my second trip to the Miraval Spa in Tucson, I’ve wanted to buy an amethyst ring. I adore amethysts because “they are said to help a person overcome anger, hate and fear, heighten emotional strength, boost energy, help insomnia, bring meaningful dreams, enhance creativity, knowledge and wisdom and bring contentment.” Now, I am definitely going to have to get an amethyst ring or an amethyst necklace.  Or maybe some amethyst earrings.  If the Zoltar says I should wear amethysts for good luck, then I must get some amethyst jewelry to wear during my life after 50. Yes. Yes. Yes. I must listen to the Zoltar.)

I took the card home with me and put my fortune near my bed.  I went to sleep.  I dreamed that instead of waking up as a BIG person, I wished for the Zoltar to make me little like when I was a young child.  I thought it might be fun to be little for a little while but with a whole lot of wisdom from my 50+ years of life experiences.

I slept a few menopausal minutes or maybe a few menopausal hours. When I woke up I went in the bathroom and looked in the mirror. I was still BIG.  ( I do admit that I am a tad smaller than I was a year ago because when the nurse measured me during my mammogram she said my height was only 5 feet 2.5 inches tall, not my usual 5 feet 3 inch stature.)

I still liked what the Zoltar had to say in my fortune. I am going to have to visit him again sometime.  (So I can show him all my amethyst jewelry.) If  you are ever in the Baltimore area, I recommend a stop at the AVAM and lunch at AVAM’s Mr. Rain’s Fun Cafe. Bring your four quarters and you too can go home with your own fortune from the Zoltar. As he says,

“Zoltar will give you a lot of wisdom,
Age is simply a matter of mind,
If you don’t mind my friend, it doesn’t matter.
Be careful like a little baby.”

Judi

A Long Flight Home

I attended the BlogHer 11 Conference in San Diego this past weekend.  I left the conference pumped by all the fantastic female bloggers I met. I left the conference energized by all the motivational and educational sessions I attended.

There are so many things I want to share with you that I heard and that I learned.  And I will.  But, first I’m going to detour and report on my trip home. You see, I decided to leave on Saturday night and take the red eye to Philadelphia.  I thought if I slept for four hours on the flight that it would be better to get home early Sunday morning.  Little did I know that sleep was not included in my itinerary.

Caution: If you do not like potty humor, you may want to stop here.

Oh, you do, you say.  Great.  Then listen and laugh along with me.  Or cry, as you think about my four hours of pure insanity…

I should have known that I was in for trouble when I arrived at the gate and realized that I left my neck pillow in my suitcase.  Okay, I thought, I’ll suffer through and try to sleep without my pillow.

I boarded the plane at 10:00 p.m. PT.  All was fine until I got to my aisle seat 21D (Remember that number and letter, write it down, stick it on a sticky note, put it in your brain.) and found that it was opposite the bathroom in the middle of the plane.  I knew then and there that I was in for a wild ride.

I, being the good girl I am, went to the potty before I got on the plane.  My mom always said to go potty before I went to sleep. Didn’t your parents always tell you to go potty before you went to sleep?  Did any of the other travelers listen to their parents?  No, no, no.  Absolutely not.  Why would they care that I got any sleep?  I was potty perfect and ready for nappy land and they were not.

Instead, the march began about 10 minutes after take-off:

- One by one each entered the potty;

- One by one the light went on and off as the door opened and closed;

- One by one each flushed with a loud whosh;

- One by one each put his/her right hand on the top of my seat to remind me he/she was there.

I tried to close my eyes.  I listened to my yoga music on my iPod.  I read my Yoga Journal magazine (I knew this magazine would come in handy.  So glad I subscribed to this journal.  Little did I know that it would save my life one day. The meditation chants helped calm me during my wild and crazy ride.)

Oh, yes, I must not forget to tell you that the woman sitting next to me on the plane in the middle seat weighed about 250+ pounds.  (Not that there is anything wrong with that, as Seinfeld would say, except that she took up almost all of my seat as well and when she took off her sweatshirt she was wearing a strapless dress. Need I say more?)

Finally, the lights went down low and all was quiet.

“I’m really, really, sorry,” said the woman seated in the window seat in my row, “but, I have to go to the bathroom.”  (SMH, SMH, SMH – for those who may not know that code it stands for ‘shaking my head.’)

“Okay, you better get in line before the next group gets there before you,” I said as I stood up to let her through.

Finally, I sat back down and all was quiet.

“I have to go to the bathroom,” said a young girl to the flight attendant. And then it started all over again.  An onslaught of pottygoers.

I wanted to scream.  I wanted to cry.  I wanted to throw myself in front of the bathroom doors.  I wanted to yell like Peter Finch in the movie Network, “I’m mad as hell and I’m not going to take it anymore.” (I almost went into the bathroom and clogged up the toilet with toilet paper, but my yoga chants held me back.)

“We’re landing, prepare the cabin for landing,” said the pilot as the clock struck 6:00 a.m. ET.

“OMG, OMG, OMG” I said to my neighbor, “I cannot believe it is time to land.”  I was half delirious from lack of sleep.

If by some slight chance there is ever a next time…not that there will ever be a next time for me on a red eye flight in seat 21D…but if there ever, ever is…I’m going to bring a copy of that children’s book, “Go The F**k to Sleep,” and read it to all my flight-mates before they get on the plane.

Judi


P.S. – Stay tuned for more exciting posts about my wonderful experience at BlogHer 11, including a recap of the Boomer Blogger session I led and all the boomer girls and guys who attended, coverage of Jesse Weiner’s keynote during Pathfinder Day, Sarah Brokaw’s tips from her book “Fortytude: Making the Next Decades the Best Years of Your Life…through the 40s,50s, and Beyond,” and a whole lot more.  Coming soon.

An Amazing Day At The Alexander McQueen Met Exhibition

I was invigorated for two hours last Wednesday morning as I attended the Alexander McQueen exhibition at the Metropolitan Museum of Art with my two BFF.  (Yes, I was one of the 17,500 new members to join the Met so that my two BFF and I could skip the two hour waiting line that wrapped around the second floor of the museum.)

I was engulfed in a world of fashion in all its forms — muslim, plaids, shells, wool, cotton, gauze, flowers, feathers, wood, steel, metal, and whatever else McQueen used to express his fashions, his accessories and his life. (I could not feel my feet after walking and standing on the hardwood floors, but it was well worth the trek and well worth the time spent.)

I was engaged in the music as I entered each room, from Tony Hymas, A Scent of Intrique, to the theme of Schindler’s List.

According to Sunday’s Style section of The New York Times, Alexander McQueen: Savage Beauty, ranks among the museum’s 20 most popular exhibitions. Why did I love this exhibit SO MUCH?  Let me count the ways…or should I say let me count the McQueen quotes that I wrote down. (After I took so much time to write down each quote, sneaking in-between many people’s legs and feet, I bought the exhibition catalog, like 55,000 others who attended the exhibition, so I could forever read the quotes and view McQueen’s fashions.)

“I want to empower women.  I want people to be afraid of the women I dress,” said McQueen. (As a boomer woman, I especially liked this quote.  I so agree with McQueen.  I want the clothes I wear to empower me.  When I look good, I feel more empowered.)

“With bustles and nipped waists, I was interested in the idea that there are no constraints on the silhouette.  I wanted to exaggerate a woman’s form, almost along the lines of a classical statue,” said McQueen. (I just adore McQueen’s poetic license with fashion and his thinking about the female body. Don’t you?  I know Lady Gaga does too, since she wears all his clothes and pedestal shoes.)

“With bumsters, I wanted to elongate the body, not just show the bum.  To me, that part of the body — not so much the buttocks, but the bottom of the spine — that’s the most erotic part of anyone’s body, man or woman,” said McQueen. (I now have a new appreciation for my boomer bum.)

“It is important to look at death because it is part of life.  It is a sad thing, melancholy, but romantic at the same time.  It is the end of a cycle — everything has an end.  The cycle of life is positive because it gives room for new things,” said McQueen.  (Wow, oh, wow.  This quote blows you away, doesn’t it?  How sad McQueen died so young.  He was such a talented artist, designer, historian, creator and a whole lot more.)

“There is no way back for me now.  I am going to take you on journeys you’ve never dreamed were possible.”  (Yes, this exhibit was an amazing journey that I will never forget, especially since I bought the $45 exhibition book. Being the frustrated fashionista I am, I’ll cherish and remember it forever.)

While the exhibit is only at the Met for another week, I urge you to visit if you have the opportunity.  It is well worth the wait.  Go with your two BFF and you will enjoy it even more.  Then do as we did, and have a relaxing lunch at the cafe at the Centrolire restaurant on Madison Avenue not too far from the Met.  But, before you leave NYC, be sure to stop at La Maison Du Chocolat (on Madison Avenue too) for a cup of chocolate sorbet or chocolate or caramel ice cream, like my two BFFs and I did before catching the train home.  Ooh, la, la – next stop Paris absolumont!

Judi

Climb Every Mountain

Our Trip to Cinque Terre


“I am looking forward to seeing you,” said Emanuela, the proprieter of Hotel Pasquale in Monterosso, the largest of the five towns on the sea in Cinque Terre, Italy.

“We will be arriving very late,” I wrote in my email.  ”Our train gets into Monterosso close to midnight.”

“That’s okay, just ring the door bell when you arrive, as the door will be locked,” said Emanuela.

We left Rome on Thursday evening and took the train north to Spezia and then another train to Monterosso.  I was excited to leave the city.  I was excited to visit the Italian countryside.

“Walk along the sea and under the tunnel and the hotel is on your left, as you exit the tunnel,” wrote Emanuela.

And so, at close to midnight, in the darkness, we walked along the sea as Emanuela had told us to do. We walked through the tunnel and there it was – Hotel Pasquale.  We rang the bell and a very mature gray haired woman answered.  ”Come in,” said Emanuela as she carried my very heavy suitcase up two flights of stairs.  She was very strong.

Our room was beautiful, with a stone wall shower and a balcony overlooking the mountains and the sea.  My daughter A and son D and I were glad to see the three beds too and quickly climbed in and went to sleep.

A Little Bit of Paradise

I awoke in the morning to the smell of freshly baked croissants (I know in my previous Ciao,Ciao, Ciao blog post, I told you about these amazing croissants dusted with sugar and filled with homemade jam, but they were so good that my mouth waters every time I write about them) and couldn’t wait for breakfast in the hotel dining room overlooking the sea.

“That water is so blue…aqua blue,” I said as I looked out the window.  I was so ready to hit the trails and go hiking along the mountains of what felt like a little bit of paradise.

“Let’s go,”  I said to my kids A and D.  ”I’m ready.”

Emanuela gave us a map of the five towns.  ”There have been some landslides and some of the paths are closed,” she said.  ”Take the train to Riomaggiore and then you can walk to Manarola.  It’s about a 20 minute hike around the mountains.  If you are up for a more strenuous hike, the climb from Monterosso to Vernazza takes about two hours.  See that path over there,” she pointed to the path along the mountain, “it will lead you up the mountainside near the vineyards.  There are 500 steps up and the path narrows as you go higher.  Be careful.”

“Let’s try the easier hike today,” I told A and D.  ”We can do the harder one tomorrow.”

We hiked. I breathed in the fresh air.  I smelled the flowers and the herbs along the path.  I smelled the fragrant scent of the lemon trees too.  I looked at the sea and the mountains.  I was in paradise.  Yes, I was in paradise and all my worries were fading fast.  I was in paradise and it was so great to be outdoors…to awaken all my senses…to smell, to touch, to taste, to hear, to see.

In town, we passed the shops with pesto, pasta, pignoli nuts, capers, oregano, basil, olive oil, wine.  In town, we passed the restaurants with pizza, lasagna, bruschetta, tomatoes, swordfish, gelato, I wanted to eat it all.  I was in love with this Italian paradise and I was truly in love.

I went to sleep that night, dreaming of the Bacio hazelnut and chocolate gelato I had just consumed, but I couldn’t sleep too well.  (I likely couldn’t sleep too well because I couldn’t stop thinking and strategizing about potential ways for me to spend more of my fifty-plus life in this fantastic Italian town.)

Landslide – Turn Back



It was Saturday, and with only one more day left in Cinque Terre, I knew it was time to test my muscle and see if I could climb the 500 steps on the path to Vernazza.

“You think you’re up for this mom?”  said my son D.

“Of course, I am,”  I said with a tiny bit of hesitation.  ”Yes, yes, I’m going to climb the mountain.”

We put some water bottles in our backpacks and headed off.  I walked up the first hill.  That wasn’t too bad, I thought.  I can do this.  I thought about what Emanuela had said the day before, “The path gets narrower the higher you go.”

I climbed 100 more steps.  I looked to the left and there were the mountains.  I looked to the right and there was no railing, just the sea.  While I loved the color of the water and I loved the view, I didn’t want to fall into the beautiful aqua blue sea.  No, I didn’t want to fall into the water.  Not that day and not from such a high point.  (I’ve never jumped off a diving board and I didn’t want to try jumping off a mountain at my age. No, no, no.)

I climbed 100 more steps.  ”Look over there,”  said D.  ”Isn’t it magnificent?”  I could no longer look at the sea or the mountains.  I just looked down at my feet.  The path had gotten so narrow, I was concerned that my feet might miss the track and that would be the end, into the sea I would go.

I climbed 100 more steps.  ”I’m not sure I can do this,” I said to A and D.  I was starting to get a little scared.  I told D to walk in front of me and A to walk behind me.

“You can do it,” said D.  ”I’m so proud of you.”

I climbed more steps.  I held on tight to the rocks on the left-hand side of the mountain.

“I feel like I’m mountain climbing,” I said to D.

“The reason you feel like you’re mountain climbing,” said D, “IS BECAUSE YOU ARE MOUNTAIN CLIMBING MOM!  YOU REALLY, REALLY, ARE MOUNTAIN CLIMBING.”

I was glad that D had confirmed that fact for me.

I put my courage cap on and climbed higher.  I was so scared and sweating too.  I had dressed in sweats and a long sleeve black tee.  I rolled up the sleeves of the tee and rolled up the bottom of my leggings.

And then, and then, and then…there was a sign about an hour into our hike.  Up high in the mountains halfway to Vernazza there was a barbed wire and a sign with a big X on it.  ”We can go through the fence,” said my son as he followed others in front of us.  ”Come on, let’s do it.”

I looked back and I looked forward. I looked forward and I looked back. I can do this, I can do this, I can do this. I followed my son.

And then, and then, and then…we saw those ahead of us coming back on the narrow one lane trail.  ”We tried to break through the next trail, but the guards stopped us,”  said the young couple.  ”We must go back.”

“Go back, go back, go back,”  I cried.  How was I going to climb back on that narrow path?  How was I going to walk down 500 stairs?  Sweat began to pour down my back and my forehead.  I thought if I died and fell off the cliff, at least I had eaten well during my vacation to Italy.

I turned around very, very, very slowly.

And then, and then, and then…I saw about eight hikers in front of me on the same narrow path.

“How are we going to get around those people?”  I said to my son D.  ”Tell them they must turn around.  Tell them they cannot hike to Vernazza.  Tell them the path is closed.”

D tried to tell them, but they did not budge.  Instead they laid their bodies flat against the mountain and motioned for us to go around them.

“Are they kidding? How am I going to get around them?”  I said to D.  ”That lane is soooo narrow.”  I climbed inch by inch as more sweat dripped off my back.  (Please, OMG, please, if I fall off this cliff, please let me be a cat with nine lives.)

Down, down, down, we went back to Monterosso.  Down, down, down, we went along the mountainside and along the vineyards.  Down, down, down, we went.  I was so happy to be back on level ground.

We showered and went out for pizza.  It was our next to last day in Cinque Terre and I was so happy to be alive to enjoy it.

“I was scared up in those mountains,” I said to my son D as we ate our pizza. “I was afraid I was going to fall.”

“Really?” said D.  ”Well, I couldn’t tell.  You were a pro out there.”

“Really? Well, thanks.  I’m glad I conquered my fears and climbed that mountain” I replied back.  (Now that I am 50+, maybe I am finally starting to be more fearless.  Am I? Am I? Am I? Maybe, maybe, maybe – although I don’t intend to do any more mountain climbing anytime soon.)

Hiking Guide


As I settled in for my last evening in Cinque Terre, I was curious to read the Let’s Go Italy – The Student Travel Guide.”  I wanted to see what they had to say about the hike I had been on earlier in the day:

“The hike from Monterosso to Vernazza is the most challenging of the four town-linking hikes, the pain is worth the gain.  Breathtaking vistas of the towns and spectacular panoramas of the sea crown the uphill journey.  The start on the far-left side of Monterosso lulls hikers into a false sense of security with gradual ramps, before throwing them – BAM! – straight into a wall of steep, uneven, and seemingly un-ending steps. “

I was so glad I hadn’t read this Guide before I went on my hike.  I may never have gone.  But, now that I’ve done it once, I may just have to go back and do it again.  Yes, I may just have to climb every mountain next time.

Judi

Ciao Ciao Ciao – Eating My Way Through Italy

Ciao, Ciao, Ciao!  I’m back from my trip to Italy and I’m here to say I definitely did my share of chow, chow, chowing.

However, as I sit here on this dreary, rainy Saturday afternoon in New Jersey, I wish, oh how I wish, I was still in Italy.  I went to Italy with my daughter A to visit my lucky, lucky son D, who is studying abroad this semester in Rome. (Mind you, I don’t know how much studying he is really doing since he is traveling all over the world most of the time.  I did decide after this trip that if and when I am young again in my next life, I definitely want to be just like D and travel all over the world.)

In Italy, it was sunny all the time and the weather was between 60 -70 degrees every day.  (It was so great to dress in tees and capris.  And I loved my new Merrell Lorelei Zip walking shoes which were super comfortable for walking all over Rome, Florence and Cinque Terre. I liked my Jag capris too which were made of stretch fabric to allow for extra expansion as I ate my way from town to town.)

In Italy, the vegetables were so fresh.  (Juicy red tomatoes, crisp orange carrots, delicate green arugula. The salads were the best in Rome at L’Insalata Ricca. My daughter A had eaten at this unassuming restaurant when she was a student four years ago and told me all about their large salads filled with fabulous vegetables. We hadn’t had a chance to sample their salads back then when I was visiting A during her stay, so I went there twice this time.)

In Italy, the desserts were to die for. (OMG, the cannolis and cookies from CiuriCiuri - simply spectacular.  D and I shared a crispy cannoli pastry.  We asked our waitress to fill one side with pistachio ricotta cream and the other side with chocolate chip ricotta cream and then we took bites from each side until our tasty cannoli was all gone – for me straight to the hips.  Then A and I devoured the biscotti, amaretti and hazelnut cookies.  I had to try them all.)

In Italy, the gelato shops were on almost every corner and my body seemed to gravitate towards them most afternoons or evenings.  (“You can have two flavors,” said the gelato man as he pointed to the vast array of flavors in the cooler.  ”I can have two flavors in one small cup?” I couldn’t believe it.  I thought I had heard wrong. I put my two fingers up to ensure he had said two.  ”Yes, two,” he said in perfect English.  Two, two, two.  I was so excited. Which two should I have?  They all sounded so incredible.  Two, two, two.  I chose heavenly hazelnut chocolate and chocolate chip with huge nuggets of semi-sweet chocolate.  It went down smooth – likely landing on my waist this time, but I didn’t care a bit, it was so worth it.)

In Italy, the pasta was perfect al dente. (I ate pasta several evenings.  Penne puttenesca was one of my favorite dishes with capers and olives as was the homemade capellini with pesto.  D also took us to one of his popular spots called Tonys in Trastevere, where he is living.  The three of us, along with his roommate B, feasted on focaccia bread, fried calamari,  antipasti appetizers and jugs of wine for starters.  Then I enjoyed tortellini for dinner made with veal ragu.  Our pants were ready to pop, but for the grand finale the waiter brought out complimentary slices of Tonys‘ chocolate cake with tiramisu cream filling.  I couldn’t resist. Mangia I did.)

In Italy, the fish tasted like it was straight from the sea. (“Where is that restaurant where we ate four years ago?” said A as we walked around Florence looking for a place to have lunch. “I know where it is,” I said to my kids as we walked down the street past the center of town.  I remember it was down this street.” “At your age mom, you’ll never remember where it is,” said D.  ”Yes, I will,”  I said.  ”I do remember, we just have to go a few more blocks and then turn left and it will be right there.”  ”Ha,” said D, as he grabbed my Blackberry and searched for the restaurant’s address.  Sure enough, we turned the corner and there it was – La Giostra.  ”How did you remember that?” said D.  ”You’re pretty good.”  It was my daughter A’s 25th birthday so we dined on squid carpaccio and I had shrimp risotto.  I also had fabulous baked swordfish fish with capers later in the week in Monterosso at Ristorante L’Altamarea.)

In Italy, the pizza was pretty, pretty amazzzzzing! As Let’s Go Italy – The Student Travel Guide said, Pizzeria La Smorfia has a huge selection of 50 different pizzas as three employees work the frantic pace serving, baking and making change.  (We had done a lot of strenuous hiking one day so we took ourselves to La Smorfia for lunch.  We ordered two regular size pizzas – one with buffalo mozzerella, eggplant and capers and another with pesto, ricotta and pinenuts.  We ate every last crumb of the deliciously thin pizza crust.  Then we went up the block to have gelato.)

In Italy, a scrumptious breakfast was included at our hotels in Rome and Monterosso.  (At the small Hotel Pasquale in Monterosso, I awoke each morning to a fragrant smell of freshly baked croissants.  I couldn’t wait to go down to breakfast and bite into the flaky pastries sprinkled with confectioners sugar and filled with homemade apricot jam. With a warm cup of frothy topped cappuccino, it was a lovely way to start the day.)

“How are your parents doing on their first trip to Italy these past two weeks?” I asked my son’s roommate B.  Just at that moment, his mom called on his mobile from their last stop in Venice.  ”Ask them how they are doing, ask them, ask them,” I said, “Ask them if they are enjoying their trip?”  ”How are you?” B said to his mom.  I could hear her yelling into the phone, “We’re in a food coma, a food coma” she said, “We’re in an absolute food coma.”

I too was in an absolutely fabulous food coma when I departed Italy last Monday morning.  It was a wonderful trip and I have more stories to tell, especially about my exciting adventures hiking through the five towns of Cinque Terre.  Stay tuned.

For now, arrivederci.

Judi