JudiBoomergirl’s Raves and Reviews

Hi, all you boomer girls. I thought I would start a new Raves and Reviews blog post to curate some of the boomer girl reads of the week on topics that you have told me you find of interest – beauty, fashion, health and wellness (physical and financial) and most of all, fun! Some of these stories will be from books, magazines, newspapers, (you know I am an avid NY Times subscriber), television shows, or social media that I have stumbled upon. Or, trend-setting information that friends and readers have shared with me. I’ll bring these blog posts to you from time to time. I’ll aim to do it weekly, but don’t want to over commit.

Let me know what you think of these features. Do they spur you to think differently? Do you have a thought you would like to share with other boomer girls? Do you have a boomer girl trending topic you would like to share? If so, please leave a comment.

Here’s what I have for you this week:

  • Retirement: How do you feel about retirement? “According to Teresa Ghilarducci, professor of economics at the New School for Social Research, “Very few people have the money they need for old age, and it’s not their fault.” Read her piece from the NY Times Sunday Week in Review at “Our Ridiculous Approach to Retirement.”
  • Fashion: Do you dream of starting a business during the prime of your life?  Read about Diane Gilman who has had success selling her jeans to baby boomers on HSN. (Go Diane! I’ll have to check you out on HSN.) Here’s Diane’s story on “Selling Fashion With Couch Appeal.”
  • Beauty: Coming up on Monday, July 30th at 9:00 p.m. ET on HBO, be sure to watch (or DVR like I now mastered thanks to my son D) the new documentary on “About Face:The Supermodels, Then and Now.” I loved the quotes from some of the boomer girl models who will be showcased. Listen up: “When you get older you build something else in your core, which goes beyond the physical, because it has to,” says Marisa Berenson. Or as Jerry Hall puts it, “Of course it’s no fun getting old or sick and dying. We all know that is coming and it’s a bore. Why shouldn’t we be allowed to age. When I turned 50, I felt a sense of achievement.” (I so agree with Jerry and Marisa. I’m still strengthening my core every day. Plus, I felt a sense of achievement when I turned 50 and I feel even more accomplishments are on the horizon.)

Enjoy!

Judi

P.S. – Calling all boomer girls…this blog is my newly updated site. I hope you like it. As part of the relaunch, anyone who signs up to receive my posts via email or leaves a comment on any blog post during the month of July, or sends a note to me with feedback about my newly designed blog, will be entered into a raffle for a copy of “I Remember Nothing And Other Reflections” in remembrance of the late writer Nora Ephron. I just received the book in the mail and it is so wonderful that I am going to order another copy for myself.(Note: To leave a comment on a post you can click the little bubble near the title of the post.)

 

My Handbag Runneth Over With Eyeglasses

“You have dry eyes and your eyes may be strained from looking at the computer for so long each day,” said Dr. V, my eye doctor. I had paid her a visit a few weeks ago because  I had been seeing double by the end of the day. My aging eyes were not able to focus properly on the computer screen with my progressive lenses.

“I think you should try computer glasses,” said Dr. V. “We’ll make bifocal lenses so you can see the distance to the computer and also read the keyboard or paperwork when you have to look down. Don’t spend a lot of money on these eyeglasses, as you’ll want to see if they work for you.”

“Sounds like a plan to me,” I responded as I headed off to Brite Eyes boutique to purchase my new eyeglasses. My nearsightedness had changed a bit, so I needed new progressive lenses for regular wear.

I decided to order the same Silhouette rimless titanium frames as my current progressives.  I like titanium frames because they are so light to wear. The best part is that my insurance included a discount on the frames, so I was a very happy camper. Silhouette makeup artist Mary Greenwell says that “rimless glasses allow you to be who you want to be and enhance your natural beauty.” (Thank you Mary, I want to enhance my natural beauty during my life after 50.)

“I don’t want to spend too much on a frame for my computer glasses,” I told the nice sales woman. “I’m going to go home and find a pair of old frames. Then all I’ll need to pay for are the bifocal lenses.” Home I went to rummage through my stash of eyewear from the 1980s, 1990s and beyond. It was fun to see how styles have evolved over the years. I had big red frames when I was in my 20s, round rimless Ralph Lauren preppy frames in my 30s, thin narrow frames from my 40s, and now rimless titanium frames in my 50s. I found an appropriate frame from my collection and brought it back to the eye boutique.

“You’re all set,” said the sales woman. “You saved so much money, you got a great deal on the Silhouette frame and you didn’t have to buy a new frame for your bifocals.”

As I prepared to exit the shop I felt very proud of how much money I had saved. That is until I eyed a purple Marc Jacobs frame that looked like it would be perfect for a new pair of sunglasses. They were big and round and they were my favorite color purple. They were screaming out to me, “try me on, try me on.” I had just saved a few hundred dollars. I really needed new bifocal sunglasses to read on the beach. (Time out: How do I rationalize the cost of these Marc Jacobs sunglasses? Here’s how – my old Elizabeth Arden tortoise shell sunglasses contain a prescription that is so out-of-date that I have to take them off to read on the beach. This could actually do more harm to my eyes. This is not good. I need my eyes for a long, long time. Time out: The purple frames will go perfectly with my aquamarine bathing suit.) Dare I leave the shop without trying on the purple frames? Absolutely not.

“They look fabulous on you,” said the sales woman. She was so right, they were made for my face. “We’ll give you a discount on this frame since you are buying so many pairs,” she added. “A discount? A discount? Really? Hmm, hmm, hmm, I do love them,” I replied. How could I resist? (When I brought my daughter A back with me to make my final decision, A said they had Jackie-O Judi written all over them.)

“How am I going to fit ALL these eyeglasses in one handbag?” I wondered. (My bag now weighs almost 40 pounds according to the Honda dealer who told me that fact when I wanted to know why my seatbelt light was staying on when I had my handbag on the passenger seat. My handbag weighs so much that the car thought it was a young child who wasn’t wearing a seatbelt.)

My handbag does runneth over with eyeglasses. However, my computer glasses have done wonders for my eye strain. I wish I had made this change sooner.

As for my big purple sunglasses – well, well, well, they’ve changed my life too. I love, love, love my big purple sunglasses. I am more stylish on the beach when I read my Vogue and InStyle magazines. Whose hiding behind those shades?  It’s me, me, me.

Judi

P.S. – Calling all boomer girls…this blog is my newly updated site. I hope you like it. As part of the relaunch, anyone who signs up to receive my posts via email or leaves a comment on any blog post during the month of July, or sends a note to me with feedback about my newly designed blog, will be entered into a raffle for a copy of “I Remember Nothing And Other Reflections” in remembrance of the late writer Nora Ephron. (Note: To leave a comment on a post you can click the little bubble near the title of the post.)

Mastering Master Class

When the publicist for “Master Class: Living Longer, Stronger, and Happier” sent an advance copy of Peter Spiers’ new book to me, I  knew it would jump to the top of my pile. After reading the first few chapters, I was hooked.  ”I want to be a Master during this next phase of my life,” I said to myself.  ”What does it take to master the Master Way of Life?”

Spiers is Senior Vice President of Road Scholar, formerly known as Elderhostel, the world’s largest nonprofit organization dedicated to lifelong learning and educational travel. Much of his book is based on research and feedback from past travel participants. Elderhostel changed its brand name a few years ago when they realized that for Baby Boomers the world “elder” is no longer acceptable. (Much agree with the name change. Ooh, ooh, ooh, soon I will be of the age to participate in Road Scholar trips — can’t wait.)

According to Spiers, the four key dimensions of the Master Way of Life are socializing, moving, thinking, and creating. Many who are Masters gravitate to activities that combine a few of these dimensions like gardening, participating in book clubs, volunteering, walking with friends for exercise, maintaining a website or blog (me, me, me, meee!) or other activities.

Spiers says: “For everyone, no matter what the specific trigger, this stage starts when something causes you to look up and see that you’ve been running at full speed, often out of an admirable obligation to care for someone else, and to realize that it’s time to take care of yourself for a change.” (Hmm, hmm, this is starting to sound like someone I know. Ah, yes, this sounds like me, me, me, meee! I do hear that small voice in the back of my head. It is planting new dreams and reawakening old ones. It is starting to scream pretty loud.)

Spiers says that “the more you make of this stage of your life, the longer it can last.” He says that “true Masters – are still going strong in this life stage in their eighties and even nineties.” (I think my mother who is 90 is definitely a true Master. You go girl. Yes, you keep going and I’m going to follow. And so is my sister N.)

Spiers says that “this life stage can last 30 or even 40 years, making it for some extraordinary people the longest, happiest, and most enriching and satisfying period in their lives.” (Wow-o-wow, I am so excited to become a Master.)

Spiers provides a step-by-step guide with exercises, charts and activities to become your own Master. He also provides life lessons from those who are already mastering Master Class. As part of this blog post, Spiers offered to share one of his own life lessons. Here’s his story:

“My childhood friend Kevin and I reconnected through Facebook; we hadn’t been in touch since the day in 1972 when we graduated from high school.  Despite the gap of time we soon discovered a shared passion—running.  Kevin was more dedicated, tracking his distance and pace with a GPS watch and posting his runs to a website called RunKeeper.  I was more casual, running 10 or 12 miles each week to Kevin’s 20 or more and keeping no records.  Kevin’s approach inspired me; at the end of 2011 we formed a goal together to run 2,012 miles in 2012.  I got a GPS watch for Christmas and launched into the quest on New Year’s Day.

Things went well through April.  The winter was mild in the Northeast, my favorite dirt trail stayed blessedly clear of snow, and I consistently reached my goal of 84 miles each month.  (I’d even lost eight pounds since the Holidays!)  With a few days left until the first third of the year ended my total mileage stood at 324, 12 miles short of where I needed to be at April’s end to stay on pace.  I ran nine miles on Sunday, April 29th, and needed only three more on Monday.

Five years ago I began to experience intermittent pain in my left knee which my sports doctor diagnosed as arthritis.  The pain came and went and, even when it came, it was tolerable.  I adjusted, cutting exercises like squats and lunges from my gym workouts, and not climbing stairs two at a time.  But I kept running, racking up around 600 miles each year and doing some five- and 10-kilometer races.  A thousand miles in a year didn’t seem like a big stretch, though I guess I knew in the back of my mind that a collision with fate might result.

 So I ran my long weekend run on Sunday, April 29th, and the next day, despite long habit, I didn’t take the day off.  After work that Monday, the last day of April, I ran an easy three miles; reaching the milestone—running those last three miles to push myself through the checkpoint—seemed more important than resting.

The next day, May 1st, I got out of bed and knew immediately something was wrong.  My knee felt stiff, my range of motion limited.  All day the pain gathered; by late afternoon I felt like a giant had put one hand on my thigh, another on my calf and twisted the two parts of my leg in opposite directions.  I swallowed some ibuprofen, made an appointment with my knee doctor, and waited.

 Within days the pain began to subside, but I knew better than to risk running for a while.  I swam a bit and, after a week or ten days, tentatively ventured out to walk a few miles at a medium clip.  A week later I started running again, taking it short and slow.  On the last Sunday in May I ran five miles, and on the first Sunday in June—just two days before my doctor’s appointment—I ran seven.

The next day I was again in a lot of pain; I could have scripted my doctor’s appointment. We compared x-rays from five years ago with new ones and the incremental wear on my knee was obvious.  It wasn’t anything catastrophic—just a steady grinding, another notch or two ratcheted toward never running again.

 Don’t stop running, the doctor told me.  Just not so far and so often.  Reality had finally caught me, slamming right into my thousand-mile dream.

 I’m fifty-seven.  It’s getting harder for me to hear conversations in a noisy bar or restaurant.  My shoulder sometimes aches, thanks to tendonitis and a couple of long-ago bicycling accidents.  And now my left knee was sending a message I couldn’t ignore.

 Despite these inevitable signs of aging, I’m not throwing in the towel.  Physical fitness is too important, not only in combating everything from heart disease to diabetes, but for cognitive health, too.  Our culture separates mind and body, forgetting that the brain is just another organ, dependent on a healthy cardio-vascular system to provide it with oxygen and sugar.

 I’ll adjust and find another, lower-impact form of exercise to obsess about.  As a teenager I swam competitively and, though I don’t cycle as much as I used to, my Cannondale is still hanging in the garage.  And the doctor didn’t say I couldn’t run at all, so… triathlon, anyone?

I hope Peter Spier’s story inspires you to think differently about how you want to Master your own journey during your life after 50. Let me know what you plan to do. Share a comment or two.

Judi

A Peek Into The Future With Ford

I recently attended the Go Further With Ford Trend Conference sponsored by The Ford Motor Company in Dearborn, Michigan.  This was the second year I was invited. (Wonder if they spoke to my astrologer from several years ago who said that I stay ahead of the trends? Or maybe they invited me because I’m just such a trendy boomer girl who likes to keep her boomer girlfriends up-to-date on all the trends.)

What’s that?  You want to know all that I learned at Ford. Here’s a peek into the future:

Urbanization: Sheryl Connelly, Ford’s Head of Global Trends Future, said that by 2050 there will be a global population of nine billion. Plus, that population is aging, both here in the USA and also in emerging markets that are not ready for it. Sheryl said that by 2050 more people will be over 60. Mobility is going to be an issue around the world, that’s one of the reasons that Ford is interested in this trend. (Ooh, how old will I be by then? Let me do the math. Ah, if I’m still ticking I’ll be 92. And if I am still ticking or even if I’m in heaven, I may still be driving because Ford is going to add technology that may allow my car to virtually drive on its own with driver alerts, traffic jam and park assists, lane departure warnings and a whole lot more.)

Carol Coletta, a specialist in developing cities and creative communities also spoke about the growth of cities. Carol said that the average homebuyer today is paying more for a house with a higher walkscore and if there is good transit, they’ll pay even more. While millennials like city life, so do many baby boomers who often move back into the city when they become empty-nesters. According to Carol, cities underpin the economy and offer more variety, discovery, and opportunity. (Hmm, hmm, hmm, after hearing Carol talk all about the benefits of city living I was tempted to go to walkscore.com to check the scores of my home.)

Streamline & Simplification: As Parrish Hanna, Global Director of Human Machine Interface for Ford said, this trend is all about what German Painter Hans Hofmann refers to as “the ability to eliminate the unnecessary, so the necessary can speak.” With so much technology available now, we’re connected all the time. Parrish said that over 40 percent of those who are always tuned in really desire a slower lifestyle and want to de-clutter and prioritize what is most important. (Amen, I second that philosophy. Between my emails, my iPad, iPhone, iHome and Macbook, my TV remote, my cable remote, my DVD remote, my DVR buttons, I always feel like I am on overdrive. It’s like “The Busy Trap” that Tim Kreider wrote about last week in the New York Times.) Not to worry, in the future, there will be voice activated driver wellness right on the steering wheel – to sync my smartphone, check my heart rate, and sense my breathing patterns. The good thing is that Ford is testing these simplification systems on older drivers to ensure that they work on all generations.

Age of Accessible Design: Since I consider myself a fashionista, this trend was one of my favorites. That’s because it is about style and seduction. It’s about the desire for products and services that work and that also have good design. Guess who I met at this session? Do you see who is in the picture with moi? Yes, it is Christian Siriano, the youngest winner and fan favorite of Bravo’s “Project Runway.” (I was very impressed with Christian and want to follow him on Twitter @csiriano. He shares his design process so if you are a fashionista like me you may want to follow him too.)

Eco-Psychology: I saved the best trend for last. That’s because DO YOU KNOW WHO I MET? Yes, I am shouting. DO YOU SEE WHO TOOK A PICTURE WITH MOI?  Yes, it is Adrian Grenier from Entourage. Yes, he is as gorgeous in real life as he is on TV. (All the female bloggers sat in the front row for this session.) Adrian is doing some really cool stuff that is aligned with this trend on his new website called SHFT. Eco-psychology is about an awareness of health and well-being and the relationship with nature and how we heal our bodies and ourselves with nature. This trend is about the butterfly effect, about how each one of us can make small changes now to improve the environment, that will impact big changes in the future. I think when I purchase my next car I may look at a hybrid model.  By then, my new car my be able to find the location of a nearby charging station, track my CO2 emissions and plan the most efficient driving routes for all my trips.

My post would not be complete without highlighting some of the interesting bloggers I met during the conference.  Check them out.  Some are boomers and some are mommies.  Some write about entertainment and some write about travel and technology.

Elise’s Ramblings by Elise Crane Derby

MidLifeBloggers by Jane Gassner

GeekGirlfriends by Christina Tynan-Wood

Everything’s A Buzz by Michelle Spreckels

Connect with your Teens by Jennifer Comet Wagner

Traded My BMW for a Minivan by Elizabeth Peterson

Enjoy…see you in the future.

Judi

P.S. – Calling all boomer girls…this blog is my newly updated site. I hope you like it. As part of the relaunch, anyone who signs up to receive my posts via email or leaves a comment on any blog post during the month of July, or sends a note to me with feedback about my newly designed blog, will be entered into a raffle for a copy of “I Remember Nothing And Other Reflections” in remembrance of the late writer Nora Ephron. (Note: To leave a comment on a post you can click the little bubble near the title of the post.)