My Middle Aged Middle


I watched Wanda Skyes special on HBO a few weeks ago. She is a very funny lady. I especially could relate when she talked about her ‘Esther.’ ‘Esther’ is the rolls that have started to appear around her aging stomach and abs.

Like Wanda, I have an ‘Esther,’ however, I think I’ll call my rolls around my aging stomach and abs -’Ethel.’ Wanda says her ‘Esther’ craves bread and drinks. And she doesn’t like to be put into Spanx.

My ‘Ethel’ doesn’t like Spanx either. Ooh no, Spanx are not fun for my 50+ year old body. I tried a pair on one time and could not sit down. That’s when my ‘Ethel’ was smaller than she is now. I’m sure she would not like to be squeezed into a Spanx ever again.

My ‘Ethel’ craves black and white cookies from the local deli. She also craves pasta and like Wanda’s ‘Esther,’ my ‘Ethel’ craves bread too, especially when it is freshly baked warm bread or rolls in a basket at a restaurant with flavored olive oil for dipping.

My ‘Ethel’ is looking forward to Thanksgiving. It’s one of my favorite holidays and I think it is one of ‘Ethel’s’ favorite holidays too. My ‘Ethel’ always shows up after Thanksgiving, after I have eaten my sister-in-law’s wonderful calorie laden, high-fat stuffing (made with Pepperidge Farm stuffing – and lots of butter – OMG it is soooooo good). My ‘Ethel’ usually likes to pack in the pies on Thanksgiving. Although, this year I was considering making apple, pear or berry cobblers or betties instead of pies. My ‘Ethel’ may not be as happy without the thick pie crust…but a fruit dessert without the pie crust might help me to better manage my friend (or foe) ‘Ethel.’

I do try to exercise ‘Ethel’ away. But, the past few years, she doesn’t seem to want to disappear. Maybe as I strengthen my core with my yoga practices, ‘Ethel’ will go on an extended vacation. Or maybe not. I just may be stuck with my middle aged middle for the rest of my life. My pear-shaped body isn’t going to turn into an apple or an hour-glass any time soon…if ever.

The zen card I selected at my yoga class tonight was ‘happiness.’ It said that ‘happiness comes from within and that no one or thing can take it away.’

Did you hear that ‘Ethel?’ I’m 50+ and my happiness comes from within…whether you decide to hang out or hide out around my stomach and abs for the rest of my life. You cannot take away my happiness. It’s here to stay. And as another one of my favorite female comedians Lily Tomlin always says, ‘and that’t the truth!’

Judi

Dreaming of Nightingales


I was dreaming last night…dreaming of nightingales. I was dreaming that nightingale birds flew over my face and pooped on it. And after they pooped on my face it was all shiny and bright and I looked 10 years younger.

I was dreaming about nightingales because on Saturday, my daughter A and I had our Geisha Facials at the Shizuka New York Day Spa in NYC. The Geisha Facials are famous because they include a special natural ingredient – nightingale droppings.

Who would have thought that bird poop could do wonders for my face? And at 50+ years old, I am willing to try anything to perk up my wrinkles and improve my skin. Sooooooo, when A called to ask if I wanted to go to Shizuka for their famous Bird Poop facial for only $50 during NYC Spa Week, I signed up right away.

“Victoria Beckham gets these facials and they are usually $180,” said A. “They must be good.”

“Victoria Beckham gets these facials? Wow, and they are only $50 this weekend. Make the reservation,” I said to A, “Sign me up, I’m ready to be a Geisha. I want porcelain skin just like a Geisha.”

As I lay down and readied for my treatment, I was relaxed and released. (Although, I was disappointed not to get a Japanese robe to put on like it said in the Shizuka brochure. Instead the esthetician put a towel around my neck to cover my shirt and gave me a paper cap to cover my hair.)

First she wiped off my skin and then it was time…time for the bird poop.

“I’m putting nightingale droppings on your face now,” said the esthetician. (I almost started to laugh as she put the droppings on my face. I knew the facial included bird poop, but I wasn’t sure exactly what kind of bird poop it would be. I was so glad to find out that it was poop from beautiful nightingale birds and not from NYC pigeons. I don’t like pigeon poop, not in my hair, which has happened to me before in NYC as the pigeons fly overhead, and especially not on my face.)

According to the Shizuka New York Day Spa website, nightingale droppings “were once only known to kabuki dancers and the Geishas themselves. Geishas found that regular nightingale droppings facials could be used not only to remove makeup but to brighten, heal and retexturize the skin due to their natural enzymes and guanine, which imparts a pearly luster to the skin. At the Shizuka Spa this ancient and prized Geisha beauty secret is artfully revived. The droppings are perfectly safe to use on facial skin and are sanitized through exposure to ultraviolet light before being milled to a fine powder. Shizuka mixes the nightingale droppings with delicate Japanese rice bran to enhance its inherent exfoliating and facial lightening properties.”

After the exfoliating bird poop, the esthetician used a tool to extract the excess oil in my skin. Then she used a seaweed mask to calm down my skin. She finished off the facial with a lovely coating of lavender oil. (Oh, how I love lavender oil. In fact, my lovely boyfriend L bought me my very own bottle of lavender oil at Whole Foods. I really wanted the lavender oil to mix with my Epsom salts to add to my bath, but now I may also start smoothing it over my face each night. It is heavenly and helps me relax before bedtime. In fact, maybe I should get some nightingale birds to sing me to sleep too. Yes, I bet if I had nightingale birds around my house, I might sleep better. And, then I could create my own nightingale bird poop to put on my face…just like a Geisha. Wonder where I can purchase some of those birds?)

I definitely was glowing after my Geisha facial. My face felt like porcelain, just like a Geisha. “You have very nice skin,” said the esthetician as she led me out to the waiting area. “I do? Really? Well, thank you, ” I replied, as I thought about all the various anti-wrinkle creams I’ve applied to my face over the years. Maybe these creams are making a difference.

I will definitely go back to Shizuka Day Spa again. And I might just treat myself to the full-priced Geisha facial next time around, especially since they would not let me use my Spa-finder Gift Certificate that I had won at the BlogHer conference last summer. I may just have to go back to Shizuka and put my $100 gift certificate towards another Geisha facial.

A and I left the spa and headed off to Loehmann’s for another mother-daughter bonding experience. My feet were so sore by the time we arrived back to A’s apartment later that night. I could have used a foot massage by the end of the day. I think I likely had stepped in some pigeon poop during our three mile walk up and back, but it didn’t do anything to my feet. Wish those NYC pigeons were like nightingale birds and provided some health benefits instead of being so annoying. Maybe then my feet wouldn’t hurt so badly.

Like the poet Lord Byron, I think I do now have a special affinity for the nightingale:

It is the hour when from the boughs
The nightingale’s high note is heard;
It is the hour when lovers’ vows
Seem sweet in every whispered word;
And gentle winds, and waters near,
Make music to the lonely ear.
Each flower the dews have lightly wet,
And in the sky the stars are met,
And on the wave is deeper blue,
And on the leaf a browner hue,
And in the heaven that clear obscure,
So softly dark, and darkly pure.
Which follows the decline of day,
As twilight melts beneath the moon away.

- Lord Byron

Could someone tell the NYC pigeons to fly south and send back some nightingales in their place?

Judi

Keeping the Engine Running


I had plans to have a quiet evening last night. I promptly left work at the end of the day and was going to go to my Gentle Yoga class to stretch, chant my ‘Om’s,” and take time for namaste meditation.

Unfortunately, my car’s engine did not want me to relax last night. While I was driving home, having my usual conversation with my mom in Flo-ree-da, a little red light started to blink.

Blink, blink, blink.

It looked like a genie bottle with a drip coming out of the spigot. “Uh,oh. Uh, oh,” I said to my mom, “Gotta go, gotta go, a red light is blinking in my car.” “Okay,” said my mom. “Be careful and take care of yourself. Call me later and let me know what happens.”

I hate when red lights light up in the car that are not supposed to light up. I don’t know ANYTHING about red genie bottles, especially red genie bottles on my dashboard. I started to get scared as I drove home, hoping that my car would not heat up or start smoking. Luckily, I made it to my driveway without any fire or smoke. I quickly opened the glove compartment and pulled out the car manual and searched for the meaning of the little red genie bottle.

Oh, good, I found it! Page 62.

Then I read it! “If a little red genie bottle lights up, immediately stop the car and pull over. There is a problem with your oil and if the little red genie bottle is on you could do serious damage to the engine of your car.”

OMG, OMG! I could have ruined my engine. I hate when things go wrong with my car.

I quickly called the Honda service department and asked the service rep what to do. “Check the oil level, if it is low or leaking and you have driven your car while the little red genie light was on you could have done serious damage to the engine.” (That’s the same thing the manual said I thought. What a smart service man he is.) “I think you may want to get the car towed to our service station,” he added.

Towed, towed, towed!

My poor sick car. (Actually, before I called Honda or the Geico Emergency Service to order the tow truck, I called my boyfriend L and asked him to come right over. Actually, actually, I called him twice to come RIGHT over now, now, now. Such a nice boyfriend. He did. He did. He did come RIGHT over and helped me check the oil dip stick – which was bone dry. Uh,oh. Oh,no. Uh,oh. Oh,no…this was not only distressing, it could be dangerous to my engine.)

“You know when your blood pressure is not working right in your body, it’s pretty serious,” said E, the nice Honda service rep when we arrived at the service station. “It’s the same thing with your oil, it’s the lubricant in your car and if there is no oil it is not a good thing. It keeps the engine going.”

Yes, E, the nice Honda service rep was very smart. He knew a lot more about cars than I did…and more than I will ever know or understand. I was glad to leave my sick car in his hands. Of course, I was very worried about my car’s engine too.

I called my mom back once I arrived home and told her what happened.

“I could have ruined my engine, I had no oil in the car,” I said.

“Don’t you have the gas attendant check your oil every time you get gas?” asked my mom. “I always used to have the oil checked…all the time,all the time,” she said. “Judi, why don’t you have your oil checked?”

I proceeded to tell my mom that these days I’m lucky if the gas attendant pumps gas into my car. They don’t wash windows or check oil. Maybe they did 20 years ago when my dad was alive, but not any more.

“You’re right,” I replied. “You are absolutely right. I will always check my oil from now on,” I answered as a dutiful fiftysomething daughter should answer her mom.

The Honda service rep called this morning. “Good news,no engine damage,” he said, “Your oil gasket was loose and we fixed it, changed the oil, put a few hoses in and your cars running like new.”

“Aaaaaaaaah,Ommmmmmmm,Aaaaaaaaah,Ommmmmmmmmm,” I clasped my hands in namaste prayer and breathed a big sigh of relief. My car’s engine is safe and sound and still running.

And so am I.

Judi

Knishes and Skee Ball


I went to see Billy Crystal’s show ’700 Sundays’ this weekend (courtesy of my boyfriend L…thank you L, you are so sweet to have taken me to such a wonderful show). And it was truly wonderful. It was all about Billy’s 700 Sundays with his dad and all about his crazy Jewish family.

Since Billy grew up in the Bronx and Long Beach, NY (primarily Long Beach), I could totally identify with him – so much, so much – even though he is about 10 years older than me. There were many comical jokes and vignettes. It made me want to go back to the Long Beach boardwalk where, like Billy, I spent many a summer in the 60s.

It’s amazing how 40+ years have passed, but I can still close my eyes and picture my Long Beach summers:

- I remember the fabulous knishes from Izzy’s Knishes. Izzy made the absolutely BEST knishes. I remember the cherry cheese knishes – they were my favorite. My dad loved the kasha knishes and the potato knishes were pretty good too. These knishes weren’t your square boring potato knishes that you find in the supermarket today, not like the big round knishes at NY delis either. No, Izzy’s knishes were rectangular and melted in your mouth. Ooh, I wish I could have a warm cherry cheese knish from Izzy’s Knishes RIGHT NOW!

- I remember the lemon water ices from Kalin’s ice and custard stand. I liked the rainbow ices too. I would lick the ices and in the warm summer nights the ice would melt all over my hands because the pleated white cups they were in would get all soft and leak. Then I’d have to find a water fountain to wash my sticky hands that were all full of sugar water. I still loved getting ices.

- I remember the skee ball at Faber’s Arcade. I loved to play skee ball (even though I wasn’t very good at skee ball) and collect the tickets all summer long so I could redeem them for a silly prize like a set of jacks or a small stuffed animal. I never had enough tickets for one of those large stuffed animals.

- I loved to go on the rides too. Oh, how I loved when my relatives visited on Saturday nights and we walked on the boardwalk and my mom and dad let my cousins and my sister and me go on the rides near the amusement area. I remember the little boats that we climbed into – each of us had a seat – and the boats went round and round. I always wanted to go again, and again, but we had just a few tickets and had to pick and choose our rides very carefully. The ferris wheel was fun too, except when I got stuck on the top because they had to let someone off at the bottom. That was very, very scary.

- I remember eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches on the beach. Or should I say, peanut butter, jelly and sand sandwiches on the beach? They were the best kind of sandwiches, squishy and flat from the heat on what sometimes appeared to be purple Wonder bread from all the Welches grape jelly that had soaked through the white bread.

- I remember my mom basking in the sun (unfortunately no one knew about SPF in those days and later in life my mom ended up with melanoma). I remember my dad loading on Bain de Soliel suntan lotion – sometimes he looked like he was lit up with orange grease.

Yes, those were the good old summer days. I may have to take a trip back to Long Beach, NY sometime. Although, I doubt it will be the same now that I’m fiftysomething. But, if I could find knishes like Izzy made…well it might get darn close.

Judi